@DebraDownSouth:
A relationship is a 2-way street. Learning to communicate both ways with your dog builds communications. I guess a control freak who simply makes a dog do what they want, when they want, still has a relationship. But when I see people who work their dog–- be it obedience, agility, herding, whatever-- usually those who succeed have built a relationship of communicating and trust.
Very wise words! And also, what a lot of people lose sight of is that you are always teaching your dog, even outside of your formal training times. You are teaching him, and he is teaching you. The best "educator" of dogs I have ever seen was Chuck Eisenmann. He communicated constantly with his dogs, and his first rule was simple, "Learn to observe your dog as he observes you, never overlook a single glance or movement". I can't imagine ever achieving the level of expertise that Chuck achieved…...I don't think it has ever been matched by anyone.....but I have learned a great deal by reading his books. :)
For those who don't know Chuck:
http://www.naturally4pets.com/smart-dog.html
http://tomhawthorn.blogspot.com/2010/12/chuck-eisenmann-trainer-of-littlest.html
I was privileged to see one of his demonstrations…..absolutely amazing! :)
Now, this was a man who had a "relationship" with his dogs!