"In order to get along with a Basenji, you have to be at least half as smart as the dog!"
@eeeefarm I agree, we aren't a good fit for each other. However, he is my partners dog and he likes him for who he is. Just not his current issues of course.
The previous owners thought he was a well behaved dog, but he was left outside to his own devices, never socialised and never taught anything. When he would destroy something or snap at them, they would do nothing about it. As a result of that, I think he can't cope with me as he hasn't been around a new person before, and in this new setting where he doesn't have the run of the house or to misbehave without being put in time out, etc.
He was desexed not long ago and obviously was drowsy and on drugs when he came home. It is very sad to say but this was the only time in over a year with us that he was well behaved. He wagged his tail at me (this has never happened before), he looked at me when I spoke his name and sat/came when i asked him to, he even walked up to me for a pat. So he definitely knows what he should be doing when we ask, he just chooses not to listen at all.
Oh, I see a lot more here than I did in your initial post. I think you need fresh eyes on this situation. I also think that since whatever you have been doing is not working, you need to find another approach. The dog is possibly resenting negative punishment (the time outs), or not understanding it. A behaviourist or experienced trainer may be able to offer some suggestions, but for starters you need to consider that the dog may be reacting to your methods. Hopefully there is a way to repair your relationship.
Sometimes a relationship with a dog just doesn't work out. Perhaps you aren't a good fit for each other, for whatever reason. How was this dog with your partner's elderly parents? Did he get along in that setting? Basenjis don't always adjust well to changes. My last boy gave every indication he thought he was "just visiting" for almost a year before he accepted that his breeder was not coming back for him. He was three when we adopted him, and I definitely got the "you're not the boss of me" message from him for some time before he decided that the change was permanent. Maybe another home would work well for him, but it will likely take time and patience on the part of any new owner, and they need to know the current problems going in.
When I got my first Basenji I was on the rebound from having to put down our family Sheltie. I wanted a dog so badly, and when I saw a Basenji advertised in the paper I just had to have her! Val and I had some good times, but I was in my early twenties, raging hormones and all that, and I came to know that between work and a social life, I wasn't able to provide her with all that she needed. I was still living at home, so she was not being left alone for long periods of time, but once I came to the realization that I couldn't do her justice I started looking for a solution to the problem. Val loved children, and I was fortunate enough to find her a home with 3 kids, whom she adored. I kept in touch, and she was happy to see me when I visited, but she loved those kids and I doubt she would have traded them for a life with me, even though she loved the freedom of going to the barn and accompanying me on rides through the countryside. Her new family had a cottage on an island, where she got the freedom she desired.
Long story short, what we want passionately may not be what we should have. Fortunately I recognized that and was able to rectify my mistake to the benefit of both myself and my dog. Had no appropriate family been available, of course I would have kept Val and done right by her, but I doubt either of us would have been as happy with the result. Word to the wise: wait until the time is right, even if you really, really want a dog now. It may save you both a lot of grief.
If you are determined to have a dog, I would absolutely rule out a puppy. You simply don't have the time to do it justice. Perhaps an older, settled dog that wouldn't mind sleeping the day away while you are at work. Possibly a retired Greyhound? They are generally quiet, and contrary to what you might think, don't require a lot of exercise. It's also a breed that does well in the heat.
I agree, dogs tend to name themselves. Regardless of what you decide to name them, a nickname may appear and become the most used name. Some of my dogs went by a shortened version of their registered names, some did not. And of course some got called very uncomplimentary things on occasion!
In a word, "no"! Basenjis do not thrive on being alone, they are very social dogs. And yes, left to their own devices they will definitely rip up furniture or belongings. Keeping a dog in a crate for so many hours is just cruel, so unless you want to invest in doggie daycare, you should absolutely not be getting a Basenji (or any dog, for that matter). Maybe an older, settled cat for company?
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. This is one of the worst ways one can lose a dog, and unfortunately it can happen to anyone. Leashes break (or are chewed in half.....some Basenjis are noted for this) and suddenly the dog is free and enjoying that freedom. Yes, be careful on busy roads, or anywhere for that matter. And a dog does not have to escape the leash, either. My niece, who is a veterinarian, has treated many "hit by car" injuries due to flexi leads. A moment's inattention, a distraction, and your dog is out in the road. Such leashes should be locked off when walking anywhere near a road.
It will take time, both for your family and his sister, to recover from the shock of suddenly losing Tikka. My thoughts are with you....
Is this a recent problem? Does she scoot when her glands start to get full? Do you monitor their condition, or just take her to get them cleaned on a schedule? Who empties them for you? This is a chore you can learn to do yourself, but if they are filling up more lately I would be wondering if there is a reason for it. A change in diet, perhaps? Maybe check with your vet.