Now there is 0

[RugosaB]

Ibis, the problem child we never had, went down to visit Toni Ackerman, and her boy Charlie Brown. (I won’t go into specifics, but conformational wise and temperament wise, it was a good pairing).

She came home, and on Christmas day, gave us a Charlie Brown Christmas!
So, of course the pups were named after the cartoon characters (I always gave the new owners the freedom to choose their own names, some kept the CB Xmas names)
Linus – Rugosa True Meaning, Lucy – Rugosa Presents for Pretty Girls, 2 others I can’t remember the CB names, and the little girl I kept, Frieda - Rugosa Naturally Curly Tail.

There was some New Af on her sire and dam side, so I remembered that when she had some front bottom teeth that never came in. Too bad, if Rosa and Ibis got awards of merits, surely this little girl could do well – the best I ever bred. I was thinking if it all worked out, breeding her to Captain.
Then, the car accident, and our world was not turned upside down, but certainly tilted a bit.
She didn’t really get socialization, so was a bit timid, and after the accident I certainly didn’t have the time, so she stayed here. She was an absolute joy, she honored basenji rules around here, and accepted what the others told her – you are at the bottom. She didn’t seem to care really. I swear, we never had to tell her no, she just followed the others.
EXCEPT
The one day 2 Lazy Boys were delivered when she was about 4. She had never chewed any fabric, and wouldn’t you know, this new chair needed to be customized – with a 2” hole on the seat!
She never heard no after that either.
At least once a week as I was watching her, I marveled at how nice she moved, and we never knew how we got so lucky that she barooed often, when she was happy, but never screamed like her Mom!!!!!!!!!

It has not been a good year for Rugosa Basenjis, Promise and Gretchen both left this year (not to mention Ada and Dempsey). Captain and Frieda were always close, and she was showing him that now it’s just them, she thought she might like to be the alpha. Captain, he didn’t care, the girls could always smell him, tell him he’s handsome, and then they could do whatever they wanted.

When Captain was helped across the bridge, Frieda had an appt for a dental. The day before the dental, she was limping, just a little, and I was told the vet would check it out. When I picked her up, he aid he saw nothing.

The last 4 dogs I have helped cross, were there because of old age, their bodies just wore out. That’s sad, but really kind of satisfying, knowing our care helped that to happen. They had all been 15 or 16, with a 17 yr old!

So Frieda came home, the only basenji, and I thought she would love it. However, she was a bit lonely, she had never been alone before.
She was limping a little more, so I took her in again. The gal that called got permission to xray her, and when I picked up Frieda, she said she saw nothing on the xray, but could send them to a radiologist, who had a better program, to see what he thought. She’d let me know in a week.

That week her limp got worse, but she was still using the leg sometimes. (Somewhere in all this she got pain meds, can’t remember exactly when. They didn’t help)

So the vet called with the bad news. By this time she was not even using the leg, ever. The radiologist said that Frieda had cancer on her leg bone, the longest one. The vet told me it was a fast growing cancer that if not taken care of, she could just be walking, and break her leg. She said we had 3 options, and started with amputation, then started with #2 and I interrupted her and said we would just let her go (which was her 3rd option), I made an appt to bring her in a couple of days. I did, I saw the radiologist x ray, and held her as she crossed.

She would have been 14 today. I know that’s old for a basenji, but I honestly thought we had a couple more years with her. She just started graying a couple months ago, and acted as healthy as can be. Plus, her mother lived almost to 17. Oh well, we’ll just treasure the time we had her. She, and the 3 before her, were all born here.

There are no plans to get another basenji, and I would never get anything else. It’s kind of weird, not having a basenji. Every time food gets dropped on the floor, I actually have to clean it up! If I can’t eat everything on my plate, even if just drops, it gets washed without being basenji washed first. I washed all the blankets and took them to Monica (has 3 Shiba Inu mixes). I gave the dog food that was left to the neighbor. We used to have a baby gait blocking the stairs to the upstairs – not any more. I vacuumed, and only do it every now and then. I keep the dog room, now the sun room, at 60 degrees all the time, used to be 72. I walk around the yard and I do it alone. I still fill the bucket on the gazebo with water because the squirrel drinks it, and just the other day there was a fat kitty there. For the last 25 years, any cat that entered the backyard was in danger, and usually got killed. Lots of squirrels and bunnies run around now.
We don’t have to always close the door when we’re bringing home groceries.
Frieda and the neighbor’s Ridgebacks used to run the length of the fence between us, back and forth, back and forth. They were out there barking for her for the first week or so. Now I don’t hear them anymore, and I don’t have to keep the path she made clear for her anymore.

There are little things around the house and yard that will forever make me think of the dogs, with love. I still love reading the basenjis stories, seeing the photos, laughing at the typical basenji antics, and will continue to do so. I play the videos of dogs baroo-ing, loud, so Danny can hear them too.

This life with no basenjis is different, but we’ll adapt.

[Kembe]

@rugosab
So sorry for your loss. Losing a family member is never easy. Wishing you comfort and peace during this difficult time. It’s so sad - we’ve lost so many basenjis from this forum in the last few days. Hopefully they are all running free! My thoughts are with you. ️

[eeeefarm]

I read every word and you made me cry. So hard to lose them, so hard to lose the last one. I have been there....I also have no plans to get another Basenji, and like you there is nothing else I want. Time may change my mind, but for now, no. Frankly I'm not sure I could stand to ever lose another....

[DonC]

@rugosab said in Now there is 0:

So the vet called with the bad news. By this time she was not even using the leg, ever. The radiologist said that Frieda had cancer on her leg bone, the longest one. The vet told me it was a fast growing cancer that if not taken care of, she could just be walking, and break her leg. She said we had 3 options, and started with amputation, then started with #2 and I interrupted her and said we would just let her go (which was her 3rd option), I made an appt to bring her in a couple of days. I did, I saw the radiologist x ray, and held her as she crossed.

She would have been 14 today. I know that’s old for a basenji, but I honestly thought we had a couple more years with her. She just started graying a couple months ago, and acted as healthy as can be. Plus, her mother lived almost to 17. Oh well, we’ll just treasure the time we had her. She, and the 3 before her, were all born here.

You are braver than I would be. I would have likely gone with amputation and maybe radiation. Obviously not a long term solution and likely not helpful to the dog but these decisions are hard when you don't want to let go.

As for going quickly, we have an 11 year old and just got the vet report that her blood work looks "perfect", but at that age anything can happen and it can happen very quickly.

All I can offer is a heartfelt: Sorry for you loss.

[Pawla]

@RugosaB

My sincere condolences. I can't believe now there is 0.

2020 surely has been the worst year ever.

I am so sorry. (but you did the right thing)

ugosa b

[RugosaB]

@donc She had bloodwork before her dental and everything was fine. We let her go because of her age - she was almost 14, and at the time, and now, it was best for her and us.

[JENGOSMonkey]

@rugosab I read your post early this morning... every word. Then again about mid day. And, again this evening. I wish I could fix this for you. I wish I could say something to heal your heart. I know what this feels like. I do.

I will say that I deeply respect your decision about another pup. I get that too. I have a close friend struggling with the same decision you've made right now. She lost her favorite Basenji yesterday. I'll do my best to post pictures and stories now and again so that you can continue to enjoy this incredibly special breed.

[Zande]

You did absolutely the right thing. It is never good or even kind to prolong life with possibly painful treatments for the Basenji just because parting would be painful for us. You let her go with dignity and to avoid further suffering.

Take comfort from that and your wonderful memories of her and all the other Basenjis you have been privileged to share your life with.

Hugs

[elbrant]

I'm so sorry @RugosaB ! Nothing I can say will bring the comfort that I wish for you. Your loss has convinced me that I will become a 2 Basenji household as soon as it is practical. The thought of not having a Basenji at home is more than I can imagine. (sob)

[Daureen]

I am so sorry. I wish you well as you adapt. I understand not having another special someone in your life. I know for them the bond is lifelong and for me it is also.

[brindlebasenji]

I am so sorry for your loss. I know your girl had a good life with you.

[tanza]

@rugosab - As all of your Basenjis have had wonderful lives with you.. I remember many times we talked... and miss you... hugs

[Jagali]

Hi, I’ve just read your story and am so saddened by your loss, my sincere condolences. Thank you for sharing and my thoughts are with you️

[imbj]

Very sorry for your loss. She's loved and you had great times with her. Our thoughts and hearts are with you.

[nothernbarker]

I'm so sorry for your loss -- I've had my lil' guy for only 1.5 years now, and on the rare occasion I'm away from him for a day or two, I still flinch and react as if he were there. I can only hope to have as long a run as you had - it sounded so fun and rewarding! My deepest condolences.

[RugosaB]

I know it's been over a week since I posted, but I remember one thing about her I didn't add ( and obviously I was thinking about her):
When she wanted attention, she would HIT, usually just once, unless that didn't work, so she kept hitting until it did. It was really a light tap, but we called it 'being hit by Freida!"

[tanza]

@rugosab - Our C-Me does that as does Franie.... It's like "hey pay attention... I am here"!