My boy has a problem with our intimacy….sigh


  • Hi all,
    We have a growing problem with our boy Ringo. I have tried to research this problem and have had no luck.
    Whenever my husband and I try to be intimate our Ringo whines and wails.
    We have tried crating him, in another room, sneaking around, it has become laughable. I am unsure how to break this behavior, I was hoping it would pass but no such luck.
    I feel like he's trying to tell me something, I just don't know what…...
    I would love any feedback,
    Thanks,
    Raquel


  • IMO, it sounds like Ringo feels you are 'his property'. Sorry, but I can't offer any ideas - I'm going to look forward to reading the posts on this thread. I'm sure you'll get good feedback.


  • I can't so much offer help but I certainly can relate to having a "romantic moment" interrupted by my basenji :eek: Sonny doesn't so much get upset by the intimacy but instead thinks he wants in on the action! lol….. It's hard to keep the mood going when Sonny is suddenly sitting on the bed next to you pawing at you with his stuffed toy in his mouth as if to say "I want to have fun too" :p


  • Is he normally okay in the crate? Have you tried a yummy treat (raw bone, kong with stuffing, etc) while in the crate?

    otherwise, I'd suggest starting with Overall's relaxation protocol. I'd use a down instead of sit and I do the RP on a mat. What you are really training is the dog to relax and be okay with things going on around him.

    http://dogscouts.org/Protocol_for_relaxation.html

    if that doesn't work, at worst, you'll have a dog with a great stay.


  • ** I also don't use the word "Stay" in my training. Dog should sit when I ask until I ask for a different behavior or I release him. Stay is redundent.


  • Play is better than scratching at the closed door, slamming basenji bodies against closed door and screaming. It's rather distracting.


  • Yes, agilebasenji, he is super in the crate. I don't usually give them those sorts of treats, they both have sensitive tummies. I can give him pigs ears, problem is they fight over them, so it requires some supervision. I will look into the link you posted…...a good stay would be good too!
    and yes, macpack, we have had some body slams to the door as well.


  • ROFLMAO, I had a cat that did that, rammed the door with her head.

    I think you need to figure out what is setting him off… the noise? If so, work on crating him while you make those noises. If the contact, hey start hugging more often and utterly ignoring him. Play sex while you train him that he WILL be ignored. It will happen.

    That said, long ago my partner got out of bed and my gsd/doberman mix bit him in the butt. So it could be worse.


  • You see there's your problem… you have a Basenji named Ringo! I had a rw Basenji named Ringo (92-2007) and he liked to be in the middle of everything. I couldn't even have a conversation with a visitor in the house without him pestering me, like "why are you talking to that person"?? "Pay attention to me"!!


    Lord Ringo of Wacella


  • Ringo…...our lil pest.
    Johnny Ringo ( from Tombstone) may just be a challenge.
    thanks guys!


  • the culprit
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  • Hmmm, he's a tri, that explains everything. LOL. Sorry to be LMAO at your situation, but, you have to admit, it is funny!

    I really don't have a solution for you other than removing him from the situation.


  • One word….crate......period....


  • I just have never had that problem with AJ. My guy and I "visit" in this little space inside the truck and AJ couldn't be bothered in the least. He actually seems kind of bored by the whole thing. He just doesn't want feet flailing around in his face, so he goes to his bed on the passenger seat and ignores us.

    My suggestion is let him whine and wail. If you go to him because of this behavior, you are reinforcing it. He's getting his way. Just get on with it and ignore him the best you can. I would even say don't throw him in his crate just for the event. Wait until he starts to misbehave then throw him in prison. This will tell him it is unacceptable for him to behave in that way and if he stays quiet and minds his own business, he gets to lay on the couch or whatever other comfortable thing he gets. If he is bad, he gets the crate with nothing in it at all and gets to lay down on that plastic floor.

    It shouldn't take long for him to figure it out.


  • @AJs:

    I just have never had that problem with AJ. My guy and I "visit" in this little space inside the truck and AJ couldn't be bothered in the least. He actually seems kind of bored by the whole thing. He just doesn't want feet flailing around in his face, so he goes to his bed on the passenger seat and ignores us.

    My suggestion is let him whine and wail. If you go to him because of this behavior, you are reinforcing it. He's getting his way. Just get on with it and ignore him the best you can. I would even say don't throw him in his crate just for the event. Wait until he starts to misbehave then throw him in prison. This will tell him it is unacceptable for him to behave in that way and if he stays quiet and minds his own business, he gets to lay on the couch or whatever other comfortable thing he gets. If he is bad, he gets the crate with nothing in it at all and gets to lay down on that plastic floor.

    It shouldn't take long for him to figure it out.

    A couple comments about this. The rule of thumb is don't let them practice any behaviors you don't want to see more of. If you start being romantic, and he starts howling, you must pay attention to him to crate him…in his mind, he wins; he got your attention, even if you are putting him in his crate. Secondly...not so fun to have the mood ruined by having to deal with the dog...imo....been there 😉


  • tee-hee-hee, he's a try-ing.

    so is he okay in his crate except when you play the Barry White music? or have you not been crating him during that time?


  • You could try a kong like agile suggested but just put in some of his normal food mixed with a little pumpkin or wet dog food (just enough to bind it together). Maybe that would be enough to occupy him but not upset his tummy?


  • How much of the house is Ringo "Patroling"?
    Is he given access to the beds(does he sleep on it)?
    Maybe he's protecting his patch.
    Sounds to me(not knowing much but learning) like he thinks your being attacked and is intervening.
    Who is "top dog" in the house?
    I think any "B" will let you think you are, but they seem to know better;)

    The hard bit is not rewarding the bad behavior.
    Also not letting him feel like he's being punished when you guys want "quiet time".


  • I have the same problem, but my girl doesn't whine or wail, but becomes VERY curious and wants to sniff everything and everywhere. It's almost like sneaking when my kids were babies, lol. I think there may be a curiosity mixed with concern, not understanding that everything is "ok"… I wouldn't crate him because of his behavior, because then the crate = punishment/prison.

    Maybe some reassuring comments letting Ringo know that everything is "okay".... realizing that for the first 5 minutes you may have to "pretend" while he's adjusting to the fact no one is getting hurt.

    And if all else fails, keep trying! 🙂


  • @AJs:

    I just have never had that problem with AJ. My guy and I "visit" in this little space inside the truck and AJ couldn't be bothered in the least. He actually seems kind of bored by the whole thing. He just doesn't want feet flailing around in his face, so he goes to his bed on the passenger seat and ignores us.

    Is that an International Pro-Star? I love the color! (I work for a tire company so I often inspect your trucks while they are in Atlanta)…

    Sorry, it's off topic, but I wanted to compliment you on your rig!

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