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Newborn baby + spoiled basenji + anxious mother = problems

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  • agilebasenjiA

    @sinbaje:

    If might help to know - when you talk to your wife about Andrea's suggestions (Quercus) - she has three young kids I believe, two of which are twins and several basenjis….so she knows of what she speaks. :O)

    AND she was a zookeeper before she had kids. Now she's "just" a dog trainer and kid wrangler. :p (at least that's all the jobs I know she has.) Either way, she's has lots of experience with animals, kids and she's an all around smart cookie.

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  • QuercusQ

    Aww…thanks girls...you are making me blush :)

    Andrea Walters

    Quercus Basenjis

    NW Ohio

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  • tanzaT

    @Quercus:

    Aww…thanks girls...you are making me blush :)

    LOL, Andrea… all true!!!!

    Pat Fragassi

    Tanza Basenjis

    www.tanzabasenjis.net

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  • E

    Thanks guys. You've been great. I forgot to mention that I also have my mother-in-law, and 11 year old niece staying with us for 2 weeks. The niece is afraid of dogs. Before this, we were at the hospital for a week, and my friend took care of Leroy. His whole world is flipped. I feel bad for my little dude. Last night was already a big improvement though. I'm confident we'll all get along fine. :)

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  • Tayda_LennyT

    Though I know not much of a comparison to a new baby, we recently had 4 visitors staying at our house - 2 of which were young kids. Tayda has been known to be impatient with children. Never bitten or anything, but definitely showing body language that she is uncomfortable when "little people" approach her. She has lunged toward children before, never biting, but more of a "back off" move.

    We basically told the kids from the get go to COMPLETELY IGNORE the dogs. When we walked in, of course the dogs ran up to them to investigate, and we told them to just turn away and ignore them. We all went about our business with me and Ondrej giving them their normal attention but the kids ignored them. Over the course of the week - we would give treats to the kids to give the dogs and slowly let them pet the dogs after they told the dog to sit (and the dog responded by - sitting. lol)

    By the end of the 2 weeks - all was well and kids/dogs were harmonious. Cuddling together and sharing the "dogs couch."

    I think it just helped the dogs to warm up to the kids on "their terms" vs being bombarded with strange people/smells/actions. By the time we let the kids pet the dogs - the dogs were dying to get some affection and attention from the strange new little beings in the house.

    just my 2 cents.

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    Michelle

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  • thunderbird8588T

    Hope everything works out for you all.
    I can understand where your wife is coming from, sometimes when you have a baby it triggers all sorts of instincs and can make you very aware of danger. After all the new human is totaly dependant on you to keep it safe.
    I bet Leroy was more interested in stealing the blanket than in the baby.
    When i had a Dalmation bitch many years ago a friend brought her new baby around and Amy put her mouth around his foot which was in a babygro, i was mortified but think that she thought the baby was a toy or something. She certainly didn't mean to hurt the baby and was very gentle.

    Shelley

    Basenji Malaika

    Basenji Malaika
    Basenji Kwame

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  • P

    It seems that like your wife, Leroy is also having a very traumatic time. So many things happening at the same time natural of course witha new baby in the family.

    I endorse all the others say but I would think that changing to 'kind' crate training when it has been used as a punishment will not be a quick term answer although essential too because it can be his 'getaway' when your little one is older or if he feels overwhelmed with visitors.

    Quercus, as usual is spot on, and now I know why - the secret's out!! What a very busy and clever lady.

    Try to get back to a normal routine for Leroy. I always advise any one who brings a new baby home to act to the Basenji as you would an older sibling - make a lot of fuss of the Basenji before making a fuss of the baby so he realises that he has not been replaced by this 'little stranger' and get jealous.

    However it's difficult to really advise without knowing the family and the situation.

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  • BuanaB

    It's a difficult situation, but having a young child and dogs can be a great combination.

    When I was pregnant of Ryan (Ryan is 9months now) we let the dogs be a part of everyting.
    We planned that the dogs must keep their place at our family.
    They didn't had a change with anything, only for us it was a bit harder because we wanted to keep the exact same routine in the family.
    They see Ryan as a brother, because of the fact we give them the same treatment.

    It's wrong that your Basenji bite into the blancet but there must be a reason behind it, maybe he feels left behind while he was your baby before your other baby was born?

    Maybe you could start also with taking him with you while you care for the baby.
    For example, when you are going to give the baby a bath, talk to Leroy and ask him to come along, let him look into the bathroom what you are doing and speak to him..
    Chafuko loves it to sit underneath the baby bath and just keep an eye on what's going on..

    Kim and my Basenji pack, Buana, Chafuko and Enya

    http://www.kwabandurus.com

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  • QuercusQ

    @Buana:

    It's a difficult situation, but having a young child and dogs can be a great combination.

    When I was pregnant of Ryan (Ryan is 9months now) we let the dogs be a part of everyting.
    We planned that the dogs must keep their place at our family.
    They didn't had a change with anything, only for us it was a bit harder because we wanted to keep the exact same routine in the family.
    They see Ryan as a brother, because of the fact we give them the same treatment.

    It's wrong that your Basenji bite into the blancet but there must be a reason behind it, maybe he feels left behind while he was your baby before your other baby was born?

    Maybe you could start also with taking him with you while you care for the baby.
    For example, when you are going to give the baby a bath, talk to Leroy and ask him to come along, let him look into the bathroom what you are doing and speak to him..
    Chafuko loves it to sit underneath the baby bath and just keep an eye on what's going on..

    Kim, one of the reasons your situation worked out sooooo well, is that you made Ryan's presence a huge benefit for your dogs,; they got to spend just as much (if not more) time doing things with you and the baby. All kinds of good stuff happened when Ryan arrived, so they made a positive association with him. The way you handled it is ideal….and it has paid off for all of you :)

    Andrea Walters

    Quercus Basenjis

    NW Ohio

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  • BuanaB

    @Quercus:

    Kim, one of the reasons your situation worked out sooooo well, is that you made Ryan's presence a huge benefit for your dogs,; they got to spend just as much (if not more) time doing things with you and the baby. All kinds of good stuff happened when Ryan arrived, so they made a positive association with him. The way you handled it is ideal….and it has paid off for all of you :)

    Thank you :)
    Just after we made the decision we wanted a baby, we talked and thought about how we could get this result. When we were sure we thought about everyting, we got pregnant :D

    It's important that you can/try to think the way your Basenji thinks and work with that.

    Kim and my Basenji pack, Buana, Chafuko and Enya

    http://www.kwabandurus.com

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