@Tayda_Lenny:
wow, thanks for all of your input! I love the info on this forum!
Well, I have been recently thinking about having Lenny neutered… my original agreement w/ the breeder is that I would be his show home and that it would take her about a year to finish him (and i realize now that its not something that can have a timeframe accurately applied to it), and then he could be neutered and be purely a pet home. Well, it has been 2 years now and he has not yet won any points in any of the shows he's gone to (she says mostly cause he doesn't stand still on the block) and now that i've moved away from the breeder its obviously not possible for her to show him. She had talked about finding someone out here to show him for her, but its been 6 months and nothing has materialized from that search. i don't think she has looked into it much yet though, she has some of her own things going on that probably make it less of a priority. But she now says he probably won't be to his "prime" showing days for about 3 more years and wants him to stay intact.
So now I'm not sure what to do. I was trying to stay true to our original agreement of keeping him intact, but i really never planned to keep him intact indefinitely, which is what it seems like its turning into. If he's not ready to be shown, then there's no point in spending the $$ to do it, but I was just not expecting to keep him intact indefinitely.
He has been a ton better at the dog park, mostly cause I figured out that a lot of his aggression was because he was on leash. He still sometimes nips at dogs as they come into the park, and I'm working on how to distract him when new dogs come in (any tips are welcomed). Once he nips them once, he could care less about them... and then continues to play and run. He has been humping more recently... but it might be a dominance thing since lots of the lucky recipients are male.
So, I think he could really benefit from "taking the edge off"... I actually get sad sometimes when he goes into his crazy zone and I can't get him back. And if neutering him would help us to focus more on training, I think it would be great. Not to mention, neutering is obviously the responsible thing to do as a pet owner. I'm just not sure how to handle this situation... I did say I would keep him intact, but it was always "for a year or so"... and now it seems like an indefinite thing... which I'm not sure I'm ok with....
I would tell her all of what you just said here. If he is really that important to her breeding program, you can arrange to have him collected then neutered. In three years, she can evaluate whether or not he still fits what she needs for breeding, whether or not he is intact…kwim? He will still be the same dog. If it is just a show thing...well, things happen, people move, dogs don't mature at the rate or level we want them to. I think she would be understanding that an intact dog just doesn't work for your situation right now. I certainly would, as a breeder.
Good luck...these things can be touchy. Sometimes the breeder doesn't want exactly the same thing the owner does, but usually there is room for compromise. Don't be afraid to explain your concerns