Sorry, I posted this in the wrong thread!
I must say, when I first started in B's, there was no one that I could find around. I didn't have much direction, but what I did do was go to the internet. I researched the breed to death, (still don't know everything, and if anyone EVER says they do, they have rocks for brains) and found my breeder-in Georgia! She is 15 hours away. The internet is a wonderful tool, but again not perfect. I did eventually find a mentor here, but again, not perfect. While in many ways, she has been very helpful, not in everyway. Over the years, I've started to realize, I have to make my own decisions, whether or not I have approval of the people up here. I've learned to listen more to opinions and have formed my own from those opinions.
That being said, Ms P does need help, but she also needs to realize that while she is being given advice, much of it the same from many people, it's not good if she doesn't take the advice and try it, or, at the very least, try to incorporate it into her own opinion, or start to ask questions about the advice being given. I would want to believe she needs help in making good choices, but again, she needs to listen to some of the older people with experience. Personally, I believe there is no stupid question, only the one not asked.
Here again, we go back to the internet. While it's a great tool, so is the telephone. You can only go so far with the written word, and it does not always convey correctly what someone is trying to say. The tone of the written word can be very different from the stated word and far different still from seeing someone and talking to them and seeing their body language. Truly, I am sorry to say this, but Ms P is very young and, from the tone (again this is something that comes across to me, but may not want to be the tone she conveys) of what she has written, is impatient and looking to move forward into breeding rather quickly without wanting to learn and wait to breed from a mentor. I know one girl who took about 12 years before she bred. She wanted to learn as much as possible. For myself, although I have been in dogs (different breeds) for a long, long, looooong time, (yeah, I feel that I'm older than dirt) things happened and I didn't breed basenjis as quickly as I wanted to originally. Crap happens. It put me back a few years, but I'm glad I waited and didn't delve into it when I wanted to. I learned so much more in those few years. I'm in the 'bad' books with some people up here, because I've struck out on my own, breeding wise, (some people just don't like my dogs) and have made decisions that I feel are in my best interests. Again, these are my decisions based on what I have learned, but I also didn't rush it.
I wish Ms P would take a step back, breathe deeply, and realize that many of the people here are not out to get her, but to inform her based on what they have learned over the years. Yes, the written word does sometimes come off rude, ignorant, seems like people are on their high horse, etc., but you also have to be able to come back and ask questions as to why they stated something like they did. Sometimes it's not what you think. I also have been on both sides of this particular fence. Sometimes I think people have been rude, but sometimes I have been rude as well. When people are passionate about something, their words seem to take a deeper meaning than what the reciever wants to hear. Everyone wants approval, sometimes, you just have to decide what you want, do it, and suffer the consequences. People will still be here for you when you make a bad decision, some of those people will tell you, 'I told you so' and some of the people will still support you even though they believe the decision you made was a crappy one.
Ms P, if you are still reading, take a step back, breathe deeply, and start to ask QUESTIONS! But don't be in such a hurry to think badly of the people, some of the people simply don't want you to make the same mistake twice, or the same mistake they have already made. We all make mistakes, it's just how you handle them in life that makes the difference. Life is still a huge learning experience and no one, NO ONE, is correct 100% of the time.