Honestly, I wouldn't have placed a puppy with you or any student. The only 2 puppies ever returned to me were young single guys and I swore I would never do it again unless the person was long established pet owner and in their own home… just too many changes. (Yeah I know some great young single male owners! But I would need a lot to convince me.)
Puppies are a huge commitment, and they need out every few hours for a few months, and they still need a huge amt of time. I wish you had fostered a dog, got a feel for the time commitment. Please, sit down and decide if this really is right for you and if you can and WANT to devote enough time for the next year to get this puppy happily through puppyhood, and then adequate time thereafter for play, training, socializing. If you can't, let BRAT help you find a GOOD home, but please don't pass back to your irresponsible breeder.
Dogs can be litter trained. Not ideal. But the issue is that it prolongs housebreaking and in your case it simply lets you off the hook for not thinking things through and not doing the right thing. We all mess up and make bad choices. (LOL it's that "WTH was I thinking" moment we all experience!) What makes the difference is what you do afterward. Only you know what you want to and will do.
it will get better, he is still very, very young..yes, it is very much like having a baby..lots of time consumption in the beginning, but you knew that, didn't you? Why don't you enjoy him being that cute snuggly pal that you wanted..before long he will be grown and not near as cute anymore..just kidding, they don't grow out of that, but you know what I mean..:)
DebraDownSouth, lvoss can speak more about college students, but I know that she placed a puppy with a young man in college. He has a couple of roomates and it was a perfect fit. Of course the difference is that he is local to lvoss and spent many times visiting the pups after they were born. So, it can and does work. Depends on the situation and the breeder.
If you can't, let BRAT help you find a GOOD home, but please don't pass back to your irresponsible breeder.
Yes Debra, you're right. I had lost track on the story of Dexter's breeder. Dexter should definitely not go back to this breeder.
Dogs can be litter trained. Not ideal. But the issue is that it prolongs housebreaking and in your case it simply lets you off the hook for not thinking things through and not doing the right thing. We all mess up and make bad choices. (LOL it's that "WTH was I thinking" moment we all experience!) What makes the difference is what you do afterward. Only you know what you want to and will do.
Actually, my brindle girl Aaliyah (now 2yo) was already litter box trained when she came to me at 11 weeks. I definitely did not find that it prolonged housebreaking.
I had her crate set up in an expen (with a top) and the litter box with equine pine. When I was at work she would use the litter box to pee (never pooped in the box or in the house). After work she would use the outdoors with the adult basenjis. I didn't keep a litter box on the 1st floor of the house when she was out with the family - only in her expen. Originally I had one on the first floor, but found that she only used the outdoors to go to the bathroom and never went in the house (other than the first week or 2 when I wasn't watching carefully enough), so I removed it. I actually found it a really good solution.
My setup also helped with her crate training as she made the choice to use her crate to sleep in and knew that she could relieve herself outside of her crate in the litter box. The only time she has ever had an accident in her crate (pee or poop) was when she was really sick one time and had the runs.
Dexter, I had a similar set-up to Renaultf1. Zoni had a litter box and her crate in an ex-pen during the day. Practically it was not possible for me to come home from work during the day. I did have a pet sitter come most days during lunch but it was not always possible to predict every occasion I or my partner would be gone for more than four hours. The litter box worked well for this and she basically transitioned herself off of it. It was a nice tool to have.
The litter box worked well for this and she basically transitioned herself off of it. It was a nice tool to have.
This is a really good point. In my case, like Nemo, Aaliyah transitioned herself off of it. By 5 months she would use it only a couple of times per week and the rest of the time she would hold it until I came home. At 6 months she stopped using it all together and would just hold it. At that point I took it out of her expen so she would have more room to play (and climb the expen like a jungle gym :D).
My fiance is gone for 14 days and then is home for 14 days, so the time when he is home is no problems at all because we share the tasks. Also, I am not saying that I want to be free to meander about with my friends, I am just looking for a way to ease the rush I have on the days when I go to class (two days a week) and the day I have work. I did think about the fact that I would have to come home between breaks, and I figured that since I only live ten minutes away from campus that it would be a breeze. However, I didn't consider traffic (which is high around campus in between classes), and those sort of things that lead me to be running a little late/rush. So I DID think about the potty every few hours issue, I just didn't realize that my plans of handling it wouldn't run as smoothly as planned. I had heard that -although several people advise against it- some people get their pups to potty outside when they are home and use puppy pads when they can't be home soon enough. I figured that if I COULD get this to work, that it would be a huge help, I don't think that that should make me a bad owner. It sounds like many replies believe that, however. And when I say I have been held up in my apartment don't get me wrong, Dexter has had plenty of time to play outside, and has even had his first doggie play-date, which he loved. So HE is fine… I just meant that his potty restrictions make it feel as though I can't get out long enough sometimes to accomplish much.
I think you're doing fine, Dexter. Even the best made plans don't always turn out.
Nemo and renaultf1, the ex-pen idea that you mentioned was something suggested to me somewhere else too. I figured that that could work for us maybe. Thanks for that! I agree with you Nemo that sometimes it is just not practical for a person to be able to be home every single day without being gone for more than a couple hours at a time. I find it hard to believe that everyone who gets a puppy can do that. I am not trying to be rude, but I just don't see how me searching for an easier route is necessarily so wrong.
Nemo and renaultf1, the ex-pen idea that you mentioned was something suggested to me somewhere else too. I figured that that could work for us maybe. Thanks for that! I agree with you Nemo that sometimes it is just not practical for a person to be able to be home every single day without being gone for more than a couple hours at a time. I find it hard to believe that everyone who gets a puppy can do that. I am not trying to be rude, but I just don't see how me searching for an easier route is necessarily so wrong.
I think you are doing fine. I remember when I brought Aaliyah home, she was my first dog that I had as a puppy. I was worried about everything and whether I was doing everything right. It is only natural for there to be an adjustment period - and just remember that it will pass and it will all become second nature. In my case, it wasn't school, it was work that made it impractical to run home every day - so that was how I arrived at using the expen. Since you don't have a breeder you can use as a resource for these questions, it is only natural that you come here asking advice - and I don't think you are being rude.
Dexter, before you get upset with the responses, look at your post:
it has become really stressful
Also, it is not very fun not being able to go anywhere for more than a couple hours because I have to go back home to let him out so often.
I know I should have thought of this beforehand, but I didn't.
I've pretty much been held up in my apartment for a week now, and it's getting to me.
It sounded like more than asking for help in the pottying, but "buyer's remorse." No one said you are a bad owner. But you do have to decide overall if this is a good fit. That was my only point. As you are here longer, you'll realize that if I PERSONALLY thought you were a bad owner, I'd have pulled no punches and said so. I think you are trying to sort out what is right.
As for other comments to me from others… I admitted I have a young male bias. 
I just think young men often are more changeable than females. And I admit freely that is my own bias, not "fact."
I have placed with TWO vet school females with grueling schedules who had family or roommate/family back up to help them out and one vet tech. And I said I KNOW great young male owners. But I'd have made sure you really had plans. I'd probably have told you to spend 2 weeks rushing home AS IF you had a puppy and try it out before hand.
If the litter or litterpan with pads works for you, and that is the ONLY misgiving you have about keeping this pup, that's one thing. I just felt your post indicated more than just the one issue and was trying to convey you can make choices to rehome if that is what is best for you and your pup. I wasn't trying to push you to do so. We all hope (for once in a 100000000 posts I am confident I can speak for everyone!) you decide you can work it out and have this cutie forever. I just wanted you to consider that you don't HAVE to, and that deciding you made a mistake does NOT make you bad.
And let me add this also... please remember my breed is Rotties, not Basenjis. You place a basenji with someone who neglects it, it's horrible but a bit different having a 25 pound or 125 pound dog to take back, retrain and hope upon hope to find a good home for. And bad habits learned with an unsocialized Rottweiler can, quite frankly, move into the danger zone.
Dexterdex please be patient and although the potty issue may seem difficult now I'm sure it won't be that long before you resolve it. You'll be looking back and wonder why it seemed such an issue.
I can't comment on using puppy pads and whether they make housebreaking more difficult or not but obviously some of the others have had no problem with them. I have been very fortunate in that my bitches have always housetrained their puppies. They do lapse of course in new homes but it makes them much easier to deal with.
Dexter, before you get upset with the responses, look at your post:
it has become really stressful
Also, it is not very fun not being able to go anywhere for more than a couple hours because I have to go back home to let him out so often.
I know I should have thought of this beforehand, but I didn't.
I've pretty much been held up in my apartment for a week now, and it's getting to me.
Dexter, these comments are what stood out to me in your initial post. I commented out of concern for both you and Dexter. I hope you understand that. I would never make a comment to be mean. Here where I live, I donate money to a shelter that takes in unwanted animals and re-homes them. Some of the things you said are heard very often when dogs come into the shelter. Animals are a huge responsibility and just like planning for a human child, I believe the same amount of thought should go into planning to bring a pet into a home.
All that sad, you sound as if you are concerned for Dexter. That is more than many pet owners. So stick around here and be a part of the basenji community. We'll help out any way we can.
Are you going to be taking Dexter to puppy classes? We are enjoying them. The mental stimulation really tires Kipawa out!
I had a dog when I was in college/graduate school so I know from experience that this is a huge committment and it definitely changes your life priorities.
It sounds like you really want to make this work - so you'll have to make some hard choices about your life style. Mostly … have patience, patience, patience.
Don't look at the piddle pads as a long tern solution - I think that's a bad idea. Basenjis can hold their urine for many many hours but the puppy needs to learn this (think human toddler). Basenjis do well on the reward system so reward lavishly when Dexter potties outside but don't get angry when he piddles inside (I was going to say "just suck-it-up" 
but not literally :D) . If he is using the pads or newspapers, gradually move them to the door and then outside so he learns that is where to go. And when you are home, gradually lengthen the time before you open the door.
It will take some time to have a well-trained potty experience.
Well, I decided not to worry about the puppy pads because he tore up the first two that I placed down within the first few seconds that I turned my back haha. I have a friend who lives up the street who told me that if I cannot make it back in time, he would come and let Dex out for me. Also, my sister-in-law and mother-in-law both told me that they would be fine with watching Dexter for a day if I really wanted to do something. I'm not saying that I will do that often, but since I only see my fiance half of the year, I DO want to be able to go to dinner and a movie once in a while with him. Also, I decided that even though Dexter despises car rides, I will still be able to take him places if I want to get out. I took him with me to a friend's house who has a Yorkie and he had a blast, and it wasn;t nearly as much trouble as I had assumed. I think I just needed to take a breather. It is stressful for me to have to get accustomed to this alone while my fiance is at work, but I know that we can do it.
And by the way…I'm a girl. Not a boy. lol
Sounds like a great plan…jepp Pippin enjoys eating those puppy pads more than using them..well when he was tiny at least..he is done with housebreaking for the most part..very now and then we might have an accident...but he is 17 wks..so I think that is norm..
Sounds like a great plan to me too! The only thing I would worry about is that I know if my mother-in-law watches him, she won't follow proper potty-training protocol lol. Her dogs (which are like 7 and 5) both potty on her floor still, and she isn't one to try and change that. So I would worry that Dex might…I don't know...pick up their bad habit and set us back?
And by the way…I'm a girl. Not a boy. lol
laugh Sorry for being off with my gendar. I had thought you were male, too. I think because you posted a sweet picture of a girl with a puppy around the time you first got Dexter, and I read the context to mean that was your fiance depicted in the photo.
Anyway, it sounds like you have some viable options lined up. Good luck, and thank goodness for understanding family and friends. Just remind yourself that you're in it for the long haul, and the puppy period is SUPPOSED to be trying, but you'll get through it!
ROFLMAO, okay so I wasn't alone thinking you were a guy. LOL. Sounds like you have some good back up folks, so just get them on board for vet runs if necessary and life will be good.
