Hello All,
I wanted to start off by thanking each and every one of you for your replies. Some of you have helped us with inventive and insightful ideas. I think that even in raising your pets it is essential to hear opinions from others. I want to express my gratitude for the help that some of you have provided.
However, there seems to be a reoccurring addition to the help. I want to make it apparently clear that my wife is not only fully capable to run this entire household by herself; it is something her massive heart for everything can handle. I came home from a couple weeks away and found my house swarming with the worst 5 children (plus one..Ryan is such a good son) I have ever seen. With her hero type presence she made a beautiful grassy knoll out of a miserable hell of a night. She has overcome more bull in her life that another dog in the house, regardless of age, will be but a mere ripple in the pool. My son, Ryan, is by far the most self sustaining child I have ever met. As I sit on the floor ready to play, he is fully content just having fun with his toys. He can spend hours entertaining himself, and he does it willingly (I try and play and he doesn't want Daddy to play with his toys). Between Baroo and the baby, and Buddy, our cat (who hates my wife with a passion…for some strange reason), She has succeeded time and again to the point where it looks easy as pie.
Now do not take me the wrong way, I can take criticism as much as the next person, but Becky is strong and I will not stand for anyone thinking she cannot do things. To tell you the truth, there are so many kind people on here that it amazes me how much you can really get to know and understand each other. And for those of you who think that you know it all ( for some odd reason {....}) I just have to say that, there are many kinds of advice, and I am grateful for those who understand what my wife is asking help for, but if there is anyone here that thinks they are genuinely superior because of their own experiences, than I am sorry that you have wasted your time, because until you understand fully who we are and what direction our lives take us than you cannot hope to help in any situation.
I do not want any of you who have helped and given ADVICE, instead of .... the IMO's or "if I were you" s, dare I say, to think that this is directed towards you. And if I have offended you, just know that I won't be posting here, and this is in no way how Becky herself feels. Thank you for your time.
-Allan....(DH) <---I like that nickname.