So…. I don't know if I am typing this to vent, or to ask for even more advice.... But I am beyond the point of frustration. Just a little history if you were not able to read my last post "Crate training... and a thunder shirt" but the issues have only escalated. Today I honestly thought my husband was going to cry... and he NEVER cries... not even on our wedding day. Our queen B, Zola has severe separation anxiety. We have had her now for a month, and it appears to be getting worse. We have taken y'all previous advice about starting from square one with the "basic" crate training.... with no change. It's not the crate that is her issue... it's when we have to leave, for any amount of time, that she totally looses it. First, she shredded EVERYTHING we placed in her crate to keep her company. Second, we left her in the crate with only her Kong and herself, and she resorted to eating the tray of her crate, chipping 3 teeth. Now she has no tray... it's on order. Third, today... we come home to find that she has found a way to walk her crate across the living room (there were 50 lb weights on top of the crate to weigh it down... she weighs 20 lbs) and she proceeded to eat through the power adapter to my computer (that was on playing music for her as suggested), she ate the plastic rim of her dinner bowl, she ate the inside door mat, in fact, she ate everything in her path EXCEPT the bone that was left for her in her crate.
Mind you, we were out getting her a calming collar (as suggested) and her Thunder Shirt and DAP are on their way here. My husband and I are at our wits end. She is so destructive when we leave that she even sacrifices herself, causing herself pain, to attempt to escape her crate. Our neighbors probably think we are hanging her by the ears because she cries SO loud.... the whole time we are gone.
And then.... one of us comes home, and she is back to being a total angel.
My husband and I first said we were going to try everything BUT meds. Now we are seriously considering medication for Zola. This process has been heartbreaking, and I have never seen my hubby so hurt. This dog is NOT the dog that was described to us... at least not when we leave.
OK.... so we can not afford a second dog right now (as was suggested), and we don't want to give her back to BRAT.... that would be the final final final straw. We are not ready to give up. So.... are there any medications for severe separation anxiety that any of you have had success with? Or any other suggestions? Please.