He should adjust in time to losing his companion. However long that takes is questionable though and he will continue to be angry and feel neglected and reflect that anger with destruction just out of loneliness. It may improve with time and may not. You have to ask yourself is this fair for your dog? I would spend nearly all my time with him when I was home taking walks, etc. and if you can't do more than 2 hrs. it may be best to find a better home for him where he has a better environment. If his new home is a better place where there is a yard to run, and owners that can spend more time with him he will gradually accept the new home and owners. I know that is hard but may be the best. When your living situation improves you may think about owning another dog.
Other than that, working 2 jobs leaves the dog alone too much to be fair so you need to get someone…the same person all the time... over to your apartment to spend time with him if you don't want to give him up. He can bond to that person and that will help the loneliness somewhat. If you decided to give him up, the new owners could come over frequently for walks and visits before you gave the dog to them so that the dog would consider them friends before adoption, that would help the dog transition. I would not give that dog to an inexperienced owner though. That could end in disaster. It will do the same things with the new owner although it should get over the transition quicker because it will be in a better environment. Also, was your husband the dog's leader? You now have to be a positive leader for him because it sounds like he lacks leadership.
Stressed out about this behaviour and need help…..
Playfulness or no, other dogs may not recognise this and it could result in a nasty fight.
Which is why I asked how the other dogs react…
i agree with the general consensus that these dogs may just not be dog park type dogs. you may want to google "predatory drift dogs". small white dogs often set my boyz off when they were younger.
Given the right park and proper socialization I don't necessarily agree. If you're adamant about wanting to take your basenjis to the dog park then I would suggest taking them to a reputable dog daycare to socialize them beforehand. They'll be with lots of dogs in a controlled environment and it provides a nice a transition into off leash areas. (Of course working on recall is another issue entirely…)
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Ayo does this a lot with other dogs. He mostly just wants to play all the time. Some dogs play along , others dont like it and let him know it, he usually backs off after a couple of warnings. I dont think you should worry about it too much, just keep an eye out, for a situation when they really keep harrassing. FOr example, My parents have an older dog , he must be 16 pointer mix, and Ayo is constantly nipping at his tail to get a reaction and running around trying to get him to chase him, but even this old guy lets him know it when hes had enough!! I think the fact that there are two basenjis may make it worst because they will gang up and becomes kind of a frenzy. I have noticed that, unless big, ptetnially dangerous dogs are involved, its better when i let them be before I react, usulaly they will settle issues themselves. But, im no expert, just what i have noticed, that when i overreact to things it gets worst.
Sometimes, other dog owners get upset at Ayos constant nipping, in that case I will take Ayo out for a walk and come back later…
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Thanks everyone for the responses….very good to hear from other owners. Reagrdless of whether or not its what I want to hear, its usually what you need to hear. I'll clarify a few things.
1. I wouldnt say its "aggressive" ( an intent to hurt )
2. Typically "OVER" excited ADHD type dogs
3. Doesnt happen often, 1 out of 10 trips maybe
4. 2 types of behaviour going on,
1 chasing and nipping doing laps of the park behind other dogs nipping at the butt, other dogs usually dont pay attention to it, owners on the other do
2 and also with smaller dogs that are usually timid and dont leave owners side, if excited( anxious ) my guys will run up to them and forcibly sniff and bump ( bully ) the other dog and that dog usually ends up being picked up by the owner within seconds ( chihuahas,or dogs of that type )
5. I am entering the park with over excited dogs, as of late they have been whinning on the car ride there, dont know why...but i let them in over excited ( my fault....that will stop now....side note.....how do I get them to stop whinning? )
6. They go to daycare, a good one as far as I am aware, no issues for the most part, they arent a fan of overly excited dogs and the daycare knows this, and act accordingly
Hope that helps shed a bit more light on my situation, I dont feel its a terrible one, but maybe one that has potential to escalate just wanted to get some info on how to go about it. E-collar not an option, never was, just a recommendation. Wow, I feel ike a bad owner, all these questions, issues. Hmmmm, where to start. Guess I'll start a new thread and go from there. Thanks again
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I have the same problem with Mojo. I switched times to take him to the dog park. Late afternoon there are tons of dogs at the park. I think he got too excited with a lot of dogs around and wanted to play chase with them- too many dogs was too confusing for him. We go much earlier now and not many dogs there. Seems to keep him calmer. Also, it is only big dogs that get him wound up- he doesn't mind small dogs.
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A BAD owner doesn't ask and things get worse. When I think of all the utterly basic things I had to learn… really, the fact you ASK shows you are, in fact, a good owner. These are not easy dogs. People fear Rottweilers... trust me, their desire to please make any well bred one nearly push button training. I have had, trained, done rescue and rehab for nearly 30 yrs, and these freaking dogs challenge me daily. It ain't just you, iow.
I have to say, I am not a dog park fan. I like the parks that let you sign out an enclosed area for you and your friends. A park where you are at risk of any nutjob owner/dog, not so much. But particularly with your guys. I hope you find a way to retrain the perfect recall, and to get them back. But right now, you are putting them in danger.
I like this link a lot,
But once someone posted on not just recall, but creating neuropathways more stable while teaching it.
TRAINING TO COME AND CONDITIONED RESPONSE
From: PCF Click
Do this exercise three times daily for two weeks:
Walk toward your dog until he sits; blow the whistle while within one second
popping a real treat into his mouth. Do this three times for each exercise.
After two weeks, walk across the room and blow the whistle. The dog will
come and sit in front of you. Give him a very big handful of goodies (
REAL treats, not dog cookies). After ten out of ten successful repetitions
of this game, blow the whistle at various times throughout the day from
another room. When the dog comes and sits in front of you, reward.
Take this outside and do "round robin whistle' with the whole family.
Now you have a conditioned response.
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I completely agree with Debra! Don't feel like a bad owner, you are doing the responsible thing and trying to figure out what is going on, and how to manage the situation.
Dog parks are really complicated places. You have all kinds of social interactions going on: dog-dog, dog-human, human-human, and then you have a bunch of people not paying attention to any of it!…and the only ones who really know what is going on are the dogs, usually. If the dogs are nipping butts, and the dog being nipped doesn't seem to mind (not intimidated, not increasing aggression) then it is probably okay, but you may have to deal with the anger of the other humans who don't understand how Basenjis play. If the dogs are nipping and the other dog is intimidated, it is your responsiblity to keep your dogs from engaging in that behavior. Although it may be a bad choice to bring a timid or tiny dog to a dog park, they have a right to be there; and the more assertive dogs must be kept undercontrol.
I think the best thing to do, would be to leash your dogs and head out as soon as you see a dog that you know will get them going. I have heard from people who have Basenjis that use dog parks that sucess is often dependant on finding the right time, and right group of people/dogs to socialize with.
Another idea would be to take them one at a time, although that would be a big pain...they would probably be less assertive if there was only one of them there.
I hope some of these ideas help. Please don't feel bad about trying to learn more...we are all learning all the time
I think you're a good owner. Bad owners wouldn't even be concerned.
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I believe you are doing the right thing, asking for help. I share your pain - my 2 year old female has become aggressive with certain other basenjis at the park where lots of basenjis/owners get together once a week. She will, out of the blue and for no apparent reason, get in the face of one or another of them and hackle up, growl and start something. Then, of course, her "sister," my b mix, will charge the rear end, and lots of the others will jump in, and we all have to pull them apart, and mine get immediately leashed until they calm down. We will give it another try, but recently, she starts up again at some point. I do not know what's going on with her because she has been a very sweet dog most of the time when she is with her "pack." I must stress this is ONLY when she is with her group of other basenjis, sometimes 15-20 of them. We take the girls to other parks where there are lots of other types of dogs, and do not have this occur. At the non-basenji parks, generally they run, run, run together, playing and having a great time, and then will play with all other kinds of dogs, preferring the larger ones most of the time, and the day will go well. As much as it is breaking my heart to do it, we have decided that since Shaye is not behaving as she should with her basenji pack, and Gemma has appointed herself a bodyguard there, we are going to stop going to the basenji get-togethers, at least for a while, so the other basenjis/owners will not need to worry about them. Whether she thinks she is establishing her place in the pack, or just feels some insecurity we cannot pick up on, it's not a good thing where it should be the best of things for her. We have to do what we feel is safest for all the dogs at a dog park, including our own. Your questions and the suggestions here all make sense. I've printed out the block about recalling - and will try to make the girls respond. Although frankly, when any distraction gets hold of their brains, they do turn oblivious!
I too had this same problem with my male. Its seem to me that is was a dominance nip and usually on the overly active dog. It never escalated with the other dog into a fight but my male definately got the hint a few times from the other dog.
But I will say that when he did do it, right away I would take him into the other pen and take them home. I took them to the park everyday and slowly broke him. I also paid alot of attention as to what dogs triggered him and gradually introduced him in.
The three we have are great at the park now and actually, are some of the most complimented dogs that frequent the park. I love to see them run free cause i dont get to that often. Such beautiful animals.
Hope you have had some luck. BTW, it did take some time and alot of patience.
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My boy is the same… play with me... chase me.... and a playful nip to the butt usually gets the game going in the direction he wants! Obviously with my other dog, a younger Ridgeback male this is no problem, they both know the game. However I rarely let him interact with dogs we don't know.
Whilst the vast majority of dogs understand its a game, the vast majority of dog owners don't. When I do let him play with known dogs (our main play group is a mix of Border Collies and Groenandals of both genders) I have had people (who do not have a dog present) come up to our group and complain about my Basenji to the other dog owners (who are fine and are happy to let their dogs play with him) because they can see the very obvious nipping. The nipping has never drawn blood nor distress but the majority of people simply do not see the nip it in the context of play.
And has been said before, the other problem with letting dogs play in a dog park situation is that you just do not know how well adjusted and socialised the other dogs are - you only need one dog that doesn't speak dog properly to throw a happy and relaxed group dynamic into turmoil and potentially lethal situation.
My old sighthound mix had been there and done it all, and I knew she would just exit a group if a dog didn't speak dog properly in a park situation. My Basenji, younger and male, is far more likely to get himself more involved in trouble and hence I do not put him in a position where is likely to get out of his depth. Who knows, as he gets old and wiser (I live in hope), I may give him more 'responsibility' but not at the moment, it is not worth the risk to him or other dogs.
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I have the same issue with Mojo, but in his case he only likes to go after bigger dogs ( especially pitbulls!!) We quit going to the dog park, and if we do try to go back, we do it when almost nobody is there. He loves dogs smaller than him- maybe a bit of Napoleon Syndrome?
I agree with JayCee. I had to know his limits with my male and not put him in a position where he would fail.
As yes, some dog owners dont understand the basenji play, but some do. I have met a great bunch of folks at the park who have taken some time with their dogs to help mine out. Very much appreciated.
No matter what kind of dog you have, there will always be that one person at the park the park who has a problem. I avoid those folks. I also want the park to be safe for all. If someone brings their children in, I remove my dogs immediately since i dont know how they are with children. Always be respectful of other owners and dogs at the park.
Anyway, i want my basenjis to be able to play with any kind of dog and not just basenjis. Success so far.