You need to get a professional to come to your home and observe... and give suggestions
Baby Aiden Due ANY Day Now…(gettting worried!!)
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He does that to us. The other dog comes running over to greet people all wiggily, tail wagging and kissing.
It's above his dignity.
He still wants attention, but he wants you to come to him.
I make him get up and come to me (he does)
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Topaz is the same..I take is her generally aloofness with everyone
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Although I have a female Basenji, I'll give you my experience:
We had Natalie when Nala was 10 mos. old. Nala was our first "child" and slept in the bed with us, under the covers - as she still does. :p We even co-slept with both of our children until recently (still on occasion too). :o There was never a problem except when she became a toddler and wanted to play with Nala's round foam fleece bed. She made what we call an "ugly" noise (for which she was immediately reprimanded, "NO!") :mad:
We did something similar to what Andrea said. No real big routine change. When we brought her home, Nala came up and sniffed her and was really interested - but in a sweet way.
We praised her for that, as we still do for good behavior. She wasn't well socialized with children, just around them on occasion. We were excited to introduce them to each other! I have tons of pictures of my husband and/or me on the couch resting with Natalie in our arms and Nala in between our legs. Same 4 years later with Logan. We also have pictures of Nala peeking into the bassinette on her hind legs. Of course, we never left them alone together…mostly because I rarely left her alone!;)
The only thing that I really try to do (and it's tough for Nala) is to not use her paws as "hands" to get our attention. I guess I had the presence of mind back then NOT to teach her "give me your paw" or "shake hands", because I had friends whose child was scratched in the face, near the eye. We taught Nale to "use your nose", when she want to be pet, etc.
You have to be cautious certainly, but I don't think I would expect him to be anything but curious.IMO, it will be really difficult to not make a fuss over the baby, you (and all of your visitors) just will.:D I think you should just equally make a fuss over what a good boy Jack is too.
It's just a change in the household and everyone will have to make adjustments. You and your husband should talk about it and make sure he is there with you to intervene if he tries to jump on you and the baby and scratch him. You will be recovering for a while and won't be able to jump up and fend him off, even if it is just to sit on you or whatever.Boy, I can go on and on and on....:eek:
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THANKS SOOO much for all this advise, Ive already learned ALLOT!! lol…Jack doesn't crate...never will, i think he was abused in the crate before we rescued him bc when we put him in a crate a actually hurt himself getting out, and shook and peed and cried...poor guy. So he sleeps in a doggie bed, and goes outside on a line to pee often. he LOVES being outside. According to the animal rescue, Jacks former owner had five children...i don't know if its true, but whenever someone come over with a child (toddlers mainly) Jack doesn't do much at all, and when he gets annoyed he just goes somewhere else. Ive had NO problems with him and a 3 yr old who is OBSESSED with Jack. I remind her to be gentle with Jack, but she is a three year old, so sometimes she pulled his ears or tail and Jack would yelp and trot off...but these are only visits that last a day or less, so I'm sure when my son is a toddler its going to get more annoying for Jack. I'm wondering if Jack should be allowed to sleep in our room or in the Hallway (between my room and Aiden's room) He has slept in both no problem, he just sleeps wherever we put his doggie bed, but we haven't tried to get him to sleep downstairs. (we are upstairs) I don't think he will sleep on a different floor than us. I'm feeling much better about this whole situation tho, I'm SURE Jack will be interested but generally calm about everything. Just no more rough house play inside...lol. I also heard that me as alpha female should use the "bahh!" sound if jack comes close while bf or and feeding of the baby...like in a real pack. He responds to that when hubby and I are eating dinner, we both "Bahh" (our growl, lol) and he will keep his distance...this is a good idea right? Anyway, THANKS again for all your help!!! Kira
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He does that to us. The other dog comes running over to greet people all wiggily, tail wagging and kissing.
It's above his dignity.
He still wants attention, but he wants you to come to him.
I make him get up and come to me (he does)
Oh, I see…he does that to you...I guess that could be a power play....
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If he isn't interfering, I wouldn't make him leave. He is used to sitting next to you, and he will be totally confused and angry at the baby if you "dump" him now that the baby is (will be) here.
I just made room for the dogs to sit next to me while I nursed, if they tried to interfere (they never did) I would have made them get down.
Think of it this way...if you give him the impression that 'you have been replaced by this baby' he will absolutely resent the baby. If you give him the impression that 'this baby is a valuable member of our pack, and he we will all protect him and care for him' you will do okay.
Try to reward him in the presence of the baby when his behavior is good, rather than correct him when his behavior is bad. Try to set it up so he needs very little correction with the baby._
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It sounds like Jack has had good child experience and he should do fine.
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**I'm thinking it will all be ok, I just have to be cautious and attentive!! but I'm naturally always like that!! lol. THANKS AGAIN for all your advise!!
K**
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I just have to be cautious and attentive!! but I'm naturally always like that!! lol.
That just shows what a great mom & dog owner you are, trying to be as responsible as you can. I think it's great.
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uhhhh OKAY??
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make sure the babies stuff is already out around the house. Bring something home for your Furkid when you bring the baby home. It might sound bad but I stop & love on our B before I go to my son
(10months) for hugs when I get home from work or where ever. This way he gives me space & time with my son and my Basenji will sit calmly and watch. -
I was told, back in 2000, when I brought our daughter Sofia home form the hospital, to let my husband carry her in, and me to come in and immediatly pay attention to our two dogs at the time. That way I was still their mom and the baby (this new screaming thing) hadn't gotten all of me for herself. I spent time with them on the floor, they did a lot of sniffing and once they had sniffed all the new smells out, my husband brought Sofia over for them to smell her too. They did not like her at first, but we made it very clear that she is here to stay, like it or not.
I also remember them both freaking out when they heard her cry through the babymonitor, we actually ended up not using it after that. Those two dogs ended up being her best friend and they put up with a lot. We just lost both of those dogs,one in March and one exactly 4 weeks later. But that is a different story.
One more thing, when people came over to gush over the new baby, some of our friends actually brought the dogs special treats, they were our first born kids so they deserved attention too. I think that was a really nice touch of our friends to in this time of amazement actually remember Bogus and Lou, and I also think jealousy was kept at a minimum because of the attention they got.
Good Luck, bringing a new baby home is so exciting and such a happy time in your lives.
