Thanks, GriffinsMom. It's nice to hear your story and it gives me more hope for Lola.
I've been reading a little about seperation anxiety in dogs and she seems to fit the bill perfectly. She always has to be near us when we're home and follows us everywhere.
When she thinks we're leaving, she starts to get panicky. If we do leave, regardless of whether it's for 5 minutes or 30 minutes, she panicks. It happens every time, whether she's in the crate or left the whole house. She whines, screams, runs around, pees and poops. One time she scratched at the door and windows, destroying the blinds and floor mat.
When we get home, she displays effusive and frantic greeting behavoirs. It usually takes her 5-10 minutes to really calm down.
Recently, we had a relative over who is afraid of dogs. We simply put the gate at our dining room entrance, so Lola was on the other side and had the run of most of the house. She sat at the gate, whining and screaming at us.
Originally, we though she hated her crate, but in fact, she seems to be fine with being in her crate, it's just when the door is closed or she thinks we're leaving when she freaks. Seperation anxiety makes sense. She was with another family for a year in another state. When she left she had to fly alone
So, I think this means we have to gradually get her used to being alone. It's hard because right now she can't take it for very long. It makes it really hard for us to have a life outside the house. I don't want to leave her alone for longer than she's ready, which is under 5 minutes!