What am I doing wrong???

[YodelDogs]

Chealsie508,
I read that thread and you were very respectable to your breeder. I cannot figure out how anyone could misconstrue anything you said to be otherwise?

[Chealsie508]

Thanks everyone for the support- unfortunately, today I have been stewing about this all day. This is supposed to be the most exciting time for me and yet I have to deal with the aftermath of this with. I guess that is really bothering me because this is the second time now an outside person has claimed something about me– It's like "who out there is trying to sabotage me," I do not participate in breed activities or such so who could know me and not like me enough to create havoc between me and another person?? I am frustrated and annoyed- I am a good person and its disappointing this is happening and no matter which way I try to explain it, I have two strikes against me.

[Kipawa]

Well, I'm not a breeder, but colour and sex were a part of my wants. IMO, I suppose some breeders might feel that a buyer looking for a particular colour/sex gives away some opportunity for them to try to match a particular dog to someone, especially if they see showing plans for particular dogs.

When you meet with the breeder, try to have calm vibes all around you. Let the breeder tell you about the litter, and the dogs individually. Maybe you could bring a list of questions with you, but I would definitely leave that towards the end of the visit.

Now STOP beating yourself up :) :) because if you are down or anxious when you visit, puppies and the humans will pick up on it. I will keep my fingers crossed for you. And if it doesn't work out, look at it as if there just wasn't the right dog there for you. Then start looking again.

[Kipawa]

@Chealsie508:

Thanks everyone for the support- unfortunately, today I have been stewing about this all day. This is supposed to be the most exciting time for me and yet I have to deal with the aftermath of this with my breeder. I guess that is really bothering me because this is the second time now I have been questioned and I feel like its strike 2- both times an outside person construed something to my contact that then fell back on me. First time it was that I was only thinking about superficial aspects such as color and markings; because I contacted another breeder to inquire about their breeding plans ( just curious, didn't go behind anyones back to get a puppy from someone different) and that blew up in my face as I was trying to see whose puppies were better looking to decide!!! I am frustrated and annoyed- I am a good person and its disappointing this is happening

Oh, and I forgot to say a lovely looking dog is great, but it needs to combined with the best temperament and health as possible.

[tanza]

@Chealsie508:

Thanks everyone for the support- unfortunately, today I have been stewing about this all day. This is supposed to be the most exciting time for me and yet I have to deal with the aftermath of this with my breeder. I guess that is really bothering me because this is the second time now I have been questioned and I feel like its strike 2- both times an outside person construed something to my contact that then fell back on me. First time it was that I was only thinking about superficial aspects such as color and markings; because I contacted another breeder to inquire about their breeding plans ( just curious, didn't go behind anyones back to get a puppy from someone different) and that blew up in my face as I was trying to see whose puppies were better looking to decide!!! I am frustrated and annoyed- I am a good person and its disappointing this is happening

I find nothing wrong with contacting other breeders to find out their breeding plans… In fact, I encourage anyone talking to me about a puppy to do so.

[Chealsie508]

Kipawa- I have said in the past that I wanted a red and white- I just love that you can see their facial expressions more clearly than the other colors- however after three years of waiting I don't care of the color or sex- I just want a puppy that is medium in its energy level- I don't want the pushiest, boldest puppy nor the shyest type. I want a love bug/ velcro dog if I can and one that has a disposition better to being around young children as I have a one year old nephew…other than happy and healthy I can't ask for anything more

[Kipawa]

Try to meet up with as many breeders as possible, even if you have to drive some miles to see them and to meet the puppies. Getting the idea of the energy level and all-around demeanor is really important, and you should see that yourself. No offense to breeders who don't work their breeding programs this way for their unique reasons/situations.

Are there any shows coming up in your area? You may be able to speak with a few breeders. On occasion there are pups available. Just a thought.

[Chealsie508]

Kipawa- I have been at my breeders several times now and feel good about their dogs and have full opportunity to see the parents, did a lot of talking to others but never visited any of them, I live in MA and I dont know of many in my area…regarding shows- I would certainly go to some if anyone knows of any upcoming?? I know as long as our personal relationship isn't ruined she is the breeder I expect a puppy from, I have a fondness for their dogs...I just hope there will be one that fits my home and I am sure there will be :rolleyes:

[Kipawa]

Would this breeder, as they are close, be bringing the dog you choose to your home? It's the final way to see if the new owner and the puppy will be a good fit.

[Chealsie508]

Kipawa- I believe I will be picking the puppy up because we have discussed what size crate I will need in order to pick him/her up in…however, I wouldn't be opposed to a home visit...and just to clarify because I didn't make it clear- they will be picking the puppy for me, with my input I'm sure...I have no problems in that because they are so thorough they will do a much better job at picking the right puppy for me