Welcome & sorry about the terrible situation you're in. It must be terribly hard to finally have a "human" to share your life with & not have her want to adjust to your already well adjusted family
The importance of your family routine should not be minimized simply because we're talking about dogs. We're not talking about object but live beings that have habits & routines just like humans only without words & thumbs Otherwise it's very logical for them to be a priority in your life.
I think asking someone to make a major change in your household is pretty critical to a relationship. What if you were living with your daughter?? And she wanted your daughter to make changes like not watch tv when both of you were watching tv ??? It would not be acceptable then either.
I hope if she really cares for you she'll be willing to accept your home as it is. A sign of true love