@lvoss:
I would really recommend investing in the video The Language of Dogs. It gives so much insight into the really subtle cues that dogs give us that we miss because we don't "speak" their language. http://www.bluedogtraining.com/videos-dvds.html
I would also recommend reading this article about dominance theory and current thoughts on it, http://www.jheffernan.com/Debunking.pdf
This is a good post, but I think that people, even the experts, sometimes confuse the words Dominance and Domineering. I also believe that many confuse Domineering Behaviors and call it Dominant Behavior. Personally I like Cesar Millan's approach. At least this behaviorist has had the courage to admit that his approach while working with most dogs he has encountered, has met with a few exceptions. Cesar's advice, comes from daily actual experience in the field, and I certainly have a lot of respect for a person's advice who is involved in this way.
I know I will probably never be an expert like Cesar, or the people mentioned in the article. What I do know, is that no matter if its human or animal, if either one does not trust you, then there are going to be issues.
Let me end this post with these few sentences:
You can trust Someone, but not Love or Respect them
You can respect Someone and their accomplishments, but not Love or Trust them
You can Love someone, but not Trust or Respect them
You can Love and Trust someone, but not Respect them
You can Love and Respect someone, but not Trust them
and last but least,
You can Respect and Trust Someone, and not Love them
I think you need all three of these, Love, Respect, and Trust to have a rewarding relationship with your Spouse, Children, Significant other, or Basenji. It has to be a two way street.
In my opinion, you do not learn to be Dominant or Submissive. It is who and what you are, not what you do or say. It is at the core of your being.
For some, Dominance like Submission is the way they show their love to another.
Jason