You asked, I answered. I don't consider it a personal attack, if the list admin does, I am sure they will contact me privately.
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So, can I assume that you mean I don't have on big girl panties, and can't handle strong opinions? 'cause if that is what you are trying to say, you are proving my case. And if that is the case (which it is not) it is not just MY problem. It is a problem in the community of this board, because people are afraid to voice their opinion because your voice is overwhelming.
Again, you asked, I answered. If you would like me to comment on your posts each and every time I think you are over the line, I will...but that isn't really my job, and I don't want it to be my job. I am not the list police...and neither are you....
Andrea, there is a difference between debating, however strongly, a topic. When you go into personal attacks, another issue. Let me say it straight. Using your disagreeing with my style or my opinions to make personal attacks is, imo, more bullying than my expressing my opinions on topics. I guess if you make personal attacks, you are still miss saint. But if I strongly disagree about a TOPIC, I am a bully. Okay then. But note, I have on my big girl panties and am addressing it. If I didn't, I'd go crying to others how I am so afraid of the breeders here, blah blah blah. I am simply pointing out your hypocrisy in calling me a bully for strong opinions on topics and your jumping ME for "interpreting" or "twisting" your posts, yet you seem to do a magnificent job of that on mine. Either we both get to interpret and declare we are the expert on the other person's intent, or we both aren't. Just another thought.
And truly, I was unaware you speak for everyone and that so many are afraid to voice their opinion. In fact, I notice any time someone disagrees with me several jump in so obviously not that afraid.
However, I am sorry if people actually claim to be afraid to speak. I truly hope they learn it is a message board. People don't agree with you, they don't agree. What the heck is there to be AFRAID of? If you don't like someone's opinion, ignore it. If what you are afraid of is that someone might prove your opinion lacks logic, research or proof, well, that's another issue. But yes, you obviously DO think your job is to police my behaviors or you would confine yourself to discussing the topic, address a problem when it arises… and not a global analysis of my behaviors declaring me a bully etc. There is a big difference between saying "Heads up, that came across as sarcastic" and saying "You are a bully." I am sure you appreciate the difference.
And btw, YES, if you think I am over the line, please tell me at that moment. Really! It isn't policing when someone ASKS YOU TO GIVE INPUT. If I see it then, I can correct, apologize or at least understand the issue. You might not believe it, but it is rare my intent is to make someone feel bad. And if you tell me and it IS my intent, at least I can say so and there is no question. But if it isn't my intent, it is a win/win. I consider your view, change the post so that it gives what I WANTED it to. I mean that. Just don't wig out if I don't always agree. Even when I don't agree, telling me will help me spot the issues.
hi Hazel-up. I'm sorry to hear that you lost your dog to cancer. I hope you can find one that fits in well with you and your family. Dogs add so much to our lives!
I just hope that we can concentrate on providing Hazel-up with all necessary avenues of information so she and her family can welcome a new dog to their home. It does sound like they are ready to be loving dog owners again.
hi Hazel-up. I'm sorry to hear that you lost your dog to cancer. I hope you can find one that fits in well with you and your family. Dogs add so much to our lives!
I just hope that we can concentrate on providing Hazel-up with all necessary avenues of information so she and her family can welcome a new dog to their home. It does sound like they are ready to be loving dog owners again.
Thank you Fran.
Yes, thank you Fran for helping to get this thread back on track. I am sorry it has wandered so far away from the original request 
Thank you, Fran. Sorry for the hijacking.
And Hazel-up, no matter where you get your next dog, clearly it is in for a happy home.
And Hazel-up, no matter where you get your next dog, clearly it is in for a happy home.
Many thanks, Debra.
hazel
i almost never post here on the forum because of some of the issues that were addressed here
however, im going to take a deep breath and give it a shot as i have the MOST wonderful foster here at my home in maine
if he is not adopted soon im afraid i will have to keep him which means no more fostering for me ):
his name thru brat is Dutch
i call him mischa
he is an absolutely incredible basenji
all of the problems people normally talk about having with basenjis are absent in dutch
he is 8 years old and does have a couple of health issues but as i said he IS incredible, sort of like a wise old man with 4 legs and fur
if he sounds like something that might work for you i can tell you more ( i love to talk about him)
heather
Hi Heather, yes let's talk some more. How shall we do that privately? Thru Brat?
hi hazel
i cant figure out how to post privately but if you would like to give me a call at we can talk about dutch and you can see if he sounds like a fit for you and if so then you can contact brat and go from there
so will look forward to hearing from you
thanks
heather
roger that, heather…
Well since you took a snark, the op can read and evaluate your issues with posting on her own :
http://www.basenjiforums.com/showthread.php?t=10584
Hi Heather, yes let's talk some more. How shall we do that privately? Thru Brat?
Hi, Hazel-up,
The best way to talk about Dutch is to contact his BRAT Coordinator:
"If you think you could provide Dutch with love, activity, and evening cuddle-time, please read the data sheet below carefully, complete the BRAT adoption form (if you have not previously done so) and contact BRAT coordinator, Roberta Kosek. The coordinator's link will take you to a form that will ask you your name, e-mail address, the city and state you live in, why this dog is perfect for your family, a typical day in your household, and, if applicable, how you plan to transport Dutch."
Roberta Kosek is the person to whom you should be talking if you are interested in Dutch. His web listing can be found at this link:
http://www.basenjirescue.org/DOGS/ME/ME-Dutch.asp
Sincerely.
debbi j.
Thanks, Debbi. We talked about it and decided that Maine is a bit far for us to travel. 
Hazel-up, as you can see we are full of advice and often we get a bit heated. Rest assured that we all love these basenjis of ours and want to help anyone who has issues or needs advice.
Its a great group, and you will have a lot of interesting things to learn…
Thanks, Sharron, I know you do. It's all good.
Hello. I realize this thread is dated, but are you still looking for an adult Basenji in MD? We just learned we have baby #2 on the way and we're very concerned how displaced our adult Basenji is going to feel.
Don't hesitate to contact me if there is still an interest.
Sincerely,
Mae
Hi Mae,
Thank you, we adopted from BRAT last year and are really happy. Where are you in MD? If you're near me, in the Washington DC area we should talk…
Mae, who is the breeder of your dog? The breeder should be contacted first as most reputable breeders will take back their dogs. If the breeder will not, please go to the BRAT-Basenji Rescue and Transport website at www.basenjirescue.org and fill out a form about giving up your dog.
Jennifer
