Yes, I'm glad to hear differing opinions! We're keeping our options open but leaning toward a purebred waterdog of some sort. I'm sure I'll be back later with questions about how to integrate a new puppy in to a home life ruled by a cat (and with an African basenji in the mix)... 🙂
Thank God For Dogs!
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Hugs to you…my brother and I take care of my 84yo father (partial stroke/partial dymentia) so I know exactly how stressful your situation is. I worry every day as to what I'm going to walk into when I come home from work.
Trust me, on the tough days, I think back to how could I have handled it without Ruby (BTW, she is SUPER affectionate and loves people). Now, I just pick up Ruby and give her a hug, or she curls up in my lap (sometime I think she's going to lose her fur from all the petting). Also, with my dad, she has brightened him up hugely. She is very gentle with him (way more so than with anyone else), and when he talks to her his speech is so much better (she doesn't care if he messes words up or sometimes doesn't quite make sense). When I let her out when I get home, she always grodels for him (rarely for anyone else)...she loves him. So everyone has benefited from Ruby being in the family.
I'll be sending good thoughts your way...I know the day will be tough until you get back home to Lillie.
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Hope all goes well. My favorite time of day is evenings on the couch petting and snuggling Deke. Don't get me wrong I love my kids but Deke doesn't say no and smart mouth. It's much needed down time after dealing with any day let alone one a stressful as you had…......GOOD LUCK !!!!!!!!!!
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What a stressed day I had! While at work (9AM) my nephew called me that my Mom had fallen. I ran over there, ambulance came a few minutes later. It was her hip. Ran to the hospital, my sister met me there. I was there for over 3 1/2 hours and was totally drained. My Mom had broken her hip and needed surgery. My sister wanted her transferred to a hospital in Manhattan. Once morphine was in her system it was alot easier on my Mom. In between all this we had to explain to my stepfather what was going on. He was there throughout this time but unfortunately has the beginning stages of dementia and I am sure stress exaggerates the symptoms. He kept asking the same questions and repeating himself. Anyway, I came home, waited for my son and then had to take him swimming. In between the wait I sat on my couch and Lillie came over to me. She is not very affectionate, however she loves when I scratch, rub and pet her. Even though it was to her advantage it helped me also. I began to relax and chill out. Someone told me I should have a glass of wine. How crazy would it be if I had told my friend…I don't need wine...just need to pet my Lillie! It's amazing what a calming effect it had on me. Anyway, I will be in Manhattan all day tomorrow awaiting my Mom's surgery. I look forward to coming home and having my "special time" with Lillie.
Jodie:)I hope things are looking up for you. We also had a horribly stressful day yesterday….my van was the vicitim of a smash and grab while we were walking in park. They stole my and my mom's purses, with EVERYTHING in them...credit, driver's licences, medications, my son's Thomas train
As we were waiting around for all the attendant law enforcement that goes along with that, the officers asked me if anyone was home, since the culprits had my address...of course no one was, but I started to panic about the dogs either being accidentally, or intentionally let out....I couldn't care less about the *stuff in my house...but I was in tears worrying about the dogs.All was fine when I got home..but still made for an uneasy night. And a difficult 24 hours while we tried to cancel and reorder everything in my wallet! What a pain!
My mom and I pretty much did everything wrong that posted 'hello, purses in car, please rob us...' but it still really stings... All I can say is ALWAYS trust your gut...I ignored my hunch that something was a miss because I hate to sterotype and prejudge people...but it got me this time
The only good news is that my new driver's license pic is better than the old one
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I hope things are looking up for you. We also had a horribly stressful day yesterday….my van was the vicitim of a smash and grab while we were walking in park. They stole my and my mom's purses, with EVERYTHING in them...credit, driver's licences, medications, my son's Thomas train
As we were waiting around for all the attendant law enforcement that goes along with that, the officers asked me if anyone was home, since the culprits had my address...of course no one was, but I started to panic about the dogs either being accidentally, or intentionally let out....I couldn't care less about the *stuff in my house...but I was in tears worrying about the dogs.All was fine when I got home..but still made for an uneasy night. And a difficult 24 hours while we tried to cancel and reorder everything in my wallet! What a pain!
My mom and I pretty much did everything wrong that posted 'hello, purses in car, please rob us...' but it still really stings... All I can say is ALWAYS trust your gut...I ignored my hunch that something was a miss because I hate to sterotype and prejudge people...but it got me this time
The only good news is that my new driver's license pic is better than the old one
Oh my god, how scary. Glad you hear you guys are ok. I am super paranoid about being attacked. But you just never know. You are in our thoughts.
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Hugs to you, also.
Andrea, did you change your locks? Just in case?
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Oh my god, how scary. Glad you hear you guys are ok. I am super paranoid about being attacked. But you just never know. You are in our thoughts.
Thanks Jennfier, luckily we weren't confronted by the thief…but it still worries me just to be involved at all..
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Hugs to you, also.
Andrea, did you change your locks? Just in case?
No, only because they didn't steal my keys (they were in my pocket). They did get my Mom's and I don't know if they are planning on changing their locks. But, I had left my house front door unlocked that day :rolleyes: stupid, I know..but we live in a very safe community :rolleyes: and yes, I am dangerously trusting of the human race….obviously I won't be doing that anymore.
Thanks for the hugs...I really need them today
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I would be really leary of the locks thing. (especially Mom's) Has she thought of it at all, or was she too worried about other things?
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I would be really leary of the locks thing. (especially Mom's) Has she thought of it at all, or was she too worried about other things?
I don't know…I will ask them about it tonight
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Sorry about your awful luck,,,,,,,,,hope today is going much better,,,,,,,Im sure it couldnt be much worse!
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First - Jodie, I'm so very sorry for your ordeal yesterday. Our little furkids provide so much more than kisses. They are stress relievers! Along with a little aspirin, Duke and Daisy love to rest with me when I need it. I do hope that your Mom can get back to herself in due time. It will be difficult, but I will be sending healing vibes and prayers your way to give her the encouragment she needs to recover and help be with your Dad. Hugs!!
Second - Andrea, Our truck was stolen last year in another town - garage door opener was on the visor. I was so worried that a piece of info was in the truck with our address, that we disengaged the power on the garage door. I was so worried the crooks would come back for more…My sympathy for being so violated. Definately, change locks ASAP if they have your Mom's keys. Also, good advice is if anyone parks your car outside - make sure you don't have anything valuable in the car including mail, credit card bills - accessible account numbers.
Our truck was found in a Detroit ghetto completely stripped of its tires/wheels, HEMI engine components and all windows smashed. At the impound lot - the garage door opener was still clipped to the visor! I was so relieved to get THAT back.
Best wishes that things get resolved and you both get back to normal living. It is stressful.
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Thanks for all your good wishes. My Mom did well during the surgery yesterday. They were able to give her a spinal which was great because my Mom is super tiny (85 lbs.). They inserted a pin, nail and rod. She walked alittle today and we are hoping she will be released from the hospital by Mon. or Tues. I convinced my sister to have her moved to a rehab in Staten Island instead of Manhattan due to my stepfather. We are having so many problems with him. He was so confused yesterday. He kept asking the same questions and repeating himself. It was extremely sad for me. We are in a wierd predicament because his children are not involved in his life, they are far away and don't see what's going on. When my Mom goes home (after rehab), and his condition does not improve (I mean his life is back in order and he is not as confused with the situation), we will have to contact his children. I have a feeling that they will not be very cooperative and my sisters and I will have to decide if he needs treatment.
Quercus-your story unfortunately reminds me of a story about 25 years ago. I lived with my Mom in an apt. in Brooklyn and she was parking her car. She got out to make sure she cleared the driveways in front and behind the car. As she got in, someone jumped out of the bushes, pulled her from the car and stole the car. Pocketbook and keys. We quickly called a locksmith, had all the locks changed and still put furniture by the door (just in case). Scary! The car was found a few days later. Totally stripped. The only thing that was in the car was an old contact lens case. Be careful! Can't imagine ever leaving my front door unlocked. I guess where I live…we just don't do that. I hope you and your Mom are OK.
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Glad to hear your mom did well in sugery. Hopefully your step-father will do better now that the surgery stress is over. It's a shame his own children don't care! That puts a lot on you but he's lucky you guys care. Hang in there!!!
