Agressive behavior

[JazzysMom]

being consostant, well it should not matter if he's allowed one day to do >>something and the next not too. Aggressive behavior should not be his >>reaction.

Dogs are not people,and they don't think/rationalize/understand as people do. Consistency IS KEY if you want well-behaved dogs. They need to know their boundaries, and those boundaries cannot change from day to day or you will not get a well-balanced dog. You'll get a dog that will always question its boundaries because he can't be sure of what they are.
If you, as leader, cannot be sure of what the acceptable perameters of behavior should be – ie letting him do one thing one day but not the next -- you will send the message that YOU are confused, and may very well wind up with a dog that begins to think, "SOMEbody needs to be the leader; If you can't lead, I will", and he will begin to attempt to make the rules.

Just my .02.

[lvoss]

@luzmery928:

I guess I should have bribed him with a treat, but once he became nasty to my daughter, I was upset. And the bed thing I know is also partly my fault, since he does get to sleep with us sometimes, just that night I needed some good sleep, he sleeps like a toddler, legs everywhere. I should have given him a treat to get him off so he'd known he wasnt' being punished. But the one on the couch wasn't about not being nice. He wasn't sleeping, he just did not want to be told to get down, plus now that I thin about it, we has another dog up on the couch in a bag and he kept trying to get to him so that's why we wanted to get him off. I guess he threw a fit because the other dog was on the couch , y shouldn't he be. The thing here is that I don't want to be afraid of my dog nomatter what the situation is.

I know you are looking into getting started in training. A command that would really help in some of these situations is "Point" or "Touch". I teach my dogs to come to my finger and touch it with their nose. This command is great for getting a dog to move from one location to another. You start by putting your finger just off to the side of their head. When they turn their head to investigate they will usually start with a sniff, click and treat the contact. Once they get the hang of that start moving the finger to different positions and distances. Then when you want the dog off the couch you ask for "Point" when they come, click and treat. This way you are not bribing the dog but you are rewarding them for getting off the couch.

The other situation with the other dog in the house is different. If you do not want your dog to interact with a visiting dog then you need to set up a way to keep them separated instead of expecting your dog not to get on the couch to be where the other dog is. It is situations like this where having a crate trained dog comes in handy.

[tanza]

@JazzysMom:

being consostant, well it should not matter if he's allowed one day to do >>something and the next not too. Aggressive behavior should not be his >>reaction.

Dogs are not people,and they don't think/rationalize/understand as people do. Consistency IS KEY if you want well-behaved dogs. They need to know their boundaries, and those boundaries cannot change from day to day or you will not get a well-balanced dog. You'll get a dog that will always question its boundaries because he can't be sure of what they are.
If you, as leader, cannot be sure of what the acceptable perameters of behavior should be – ie letting him do one thing one day but not the next -- you will send the message that YOU are confused, and may very well wind up with a dog that begins to think, "SOMEbody needs to be the leader; If you can't lead, I will", and he will begin to attempt to make the rules.

Just my .02.

The last remark ("SOMEbody needs to be the leader; If you can't lead, I will", and he will begin to attempt to make the rules.) is totally on the MARK… they do and will do this.... without a doubt.... It is not like you can talk and "reason" with your pet... obviously... so the only thing you really can do is teach by example and consistant ways. And dogs will pick up on your fear even if you don't think you are showing it...

Here is an example... I have right now 4 Basenjis and have had 5 at one time. My one girl, Mickii has always felt it was her right to sit at the kitchen table in one of the chairs... she doesn't take anything, but watches us eat... (and yes, we should not let this behavior happen, but we do, it is pretty cute)... HOWEVER, none of the others have ever tried it... nor do we let them.. and they understand for whatever reason, she is permitted to do this and they are not... and it has never been a problem. But we are consistant with the fact one can do this, the rest can't. My Basenjis also know the leave it command and they will give up anything they have in their mouths without complaining... this again like all it a learn behavior..

[tanza]

By the way, when we have company, we do not permit this behavior, all the B's are safely in their crates when we eat… another advantage to crate training

[luzmery928]

O.k thanks everyone for all your advise. So it's better for hm not to go in my daughters room at all, this confuses him, o.k. And how about the bed. It's o.k for him to lay with us for a while but then when it's time for sleep, we show him his bed and reward him for going there (on his own not carried the way my husband does it). It's o.k for him to cuddle with us, but we each have our own beds. It's hard being consistant but I do see this is the KEY!!!

[tanza]

Exactly, it is like "tough love"…

[JazzysMom]

And how about the bed. It's o.k for him to lay with us for a while but then >>when it's time for sleep, we show him his bed and reward him for going >>there (on his own not carried the way my husband does it). It's o.k for him >>to cuddle with us, but we each have our own beds

Sure why not. Like – reward him to his own bed, then turn off the lights, or on the radio, whatever. He'll catch on fast that there is time to cuddle together and time to go to bed. Eventually, I'll bet, you'll find that when you turn off the light {or whatever}, he will just go to bed.

[Quercus]

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I really like this too! Gentle, consistant leadership is the key.

[Quercus]

@luzmery928:

O.k thanks everyone for all your advise. So it's better for hm not to go in my daughters room at all, this confuses him, o.k. And how about the bed. It's o.k for him to lay with us for a while but then when it's time for sleep, we show him his bed and reward him for going there (on his own not carried the way my husband does it). It's o.k for him to cuddle with us, but we each have our own beds. It's hard being consistant but I do see this is the KEY!!!

It is almost impossible for us to walk you thru this online. You really need to have a trainer come to your house, and help you make a training plan.

[luzmery928]

yeap on it..I looked up a list of trainers in my area form one of the other threads on obedience and training..thanks

[luzmery928]

Well still have not heard back from any of the trainers I e-mailed. Last night I was cuddling in bed with my daughter and B before my husband came home and when my daughter went to her own room, I moved a bit and my B growled at me and tried to snap. I grabbed him by his collar and told him to get off. He growled again and sort of tried snapping at me (if he wanted too, he could have definetly bit me) I guess it was sort of a warning, but I didn't budge and showed no fear and just lead him off the bed onto the floor. He begged to be let up but I just ignored him. He eventually fell asleep on his own bed. I guess it's also a test. Like I said before, if he wanted too, he could have bit me. But I'm still going through with the trainer.

[tanza]

Good for you!! and good for you for getting him off the bed and not letting him back on…. that is a great first step...!!!

[luzmery928]

thanks for the encouragement, as I said before , one day at a time

[tanza]

Exactly, one day at a time!!!

[jys1011]

It's tough but yes consistency is key. We have a similar issue with Topaz and the couch. She doesn't like to get off the couch when it's bed time & she has to go to her crate…too comfy I guess

So my husband goes to the cookie jar & shakes it & C3 runs into his crate for his bedtime cookie and THEN she run like a crazy girl straight into her crate! And it's bedtime...no more growling...no more carrying off the couch...etc. etc.

[luzmery928]

O.k a minor set back on my part. Last night it was time for bed so I bribed our B to get off the bed with a treat. All good, my husband thought it was a wonderful idea and so on. The problem was that we decided to stay up a little longer, watch some tv, talk so our B did not want to stay in his bed and when I did not allow him up on the bed he decided to trash my side of the room. Yes my fault for leaving stuff out. Anyway, I was too lazy to clean up my mess so the B won and he got to sleep with us last night. But on the positive side, he tolerated being moved during the night without any aggresive behavior so maybe he might be getting the idea that if he behaves (at least no aggression)then he gets to sleep with us from time to time. I do have to make a mental note to clean my side of the room some time soon so our little taz can't use that against me to get his way. Smart little B!

[jys1011]

Once again..this is where crate training comes in handy..our Bs go into their crates for bed time & we can stay up & talk & do human socializing

[luzmery928]

This really won't be a problem once I clean my mess up since then he will just whine for a little bit and then go to sleep when he sees mommie is not paying attention. He's usually a good boy at night.

[luzmery928]

We've got a trainer. I got him form a list of certified positive reinforcement trainers from another thread. I love this forum for all it's helpful info. Anyway he will be coming to our home tonight for a meeting and see what we need to work on. Will let you all know how it goes. We are very excited.

[tanza]

That is great…. so happy to hear that.... and thanks for doing positive things to make your boy a happy member of your family....