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  • QuercusQ

    @Buana:

    It's a difficult situation, but having a young child and dogs can be a great combination.

    When I was pregnant of Ryan (Ryan is 9months now) we let the dogs be a part of everyting.
    We planned that the dogs must keep their place at our family.
    They didn't had a change with anything, only for us it was a bit harder because we wanted to keep the exact same routine in the family.
    They see Ryan as a brother, because of the fact we give them the same treatment.

    It's wrong that your Basenji bite into the blancet but there must be a reason behind it, maybe he feels left behind while he was your baby before your other baby was born?

    Maybe you could start also with taking him with you while you care for the baby.
    For example, when you are going to give the baby a bath, talk to Leroy and ask him to come along, let him look into the bathroom what you are doing and speak to him..
    Chafuko loves it to sit underneath the baby bath and just keep an eye on what's going on..

    Kim, one of the reasons your situation worked out sooooo well, is that you made Ryan's presence a huge benefit for your dogs,; they got to spend just as much (if not more) time doing things with you and the baby. All kinds of good stuff happened when Ryan arrived, so they made a positive association with him. The way you handled it is ideal….and it has paid off for all of you :)

    Andrea Walters

    Quercus Basenjis

    NW Ohio

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  • BuanaB

    @Quercus:

    Kim, one of the reasons your situation worked out sooooo well, is that you made Ryan's presence a huge benefit for your dogs,; they got to spend just as much (if not more) time doing things with you and the baby. All kinds of good stuff happened when Ryan arrived, so they made a positive association with him. The way you handled it is ideal….and it has paid off for all of you :)

    Thank you :)
    Just after we made the decision we wanted a baby, we talked and thought about how we could get this result. When we were sure we thought about everyting, we got pregnant :D

    It's important that you can/try to think the way your Basenji thinks and work with that.

    Kim and my Basenji pack, Buana, Chafuko and Enya

    http://www.kwabandurus.com

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