• @DebraDownSouth:

    A dog living with 3 females, if ever was going to react to their cycles, would have.

    Hi Debra, I enjoy everyone posting on here. Everyone has good ideas/thoughts. But sometimes, though I don't mention it (it rolls off my back), your tone in your messages come across a little condescending. I know you aren't doing it on purpose, so no offence taken. But I just thought I might let you know in a friendly way.


  • Thanks everyone for the responses…

    I suspected the clothes or foreign smells, hence why I got her to go up and change clothes, into some of her own 'dirty' ones that had her smell on them...

    Tanza no, when she came down to take him out the next am, she hadnt had a shower. They usually take the house dogs out for a wee/poo, have b'fast, then shower prior to going out/school etc, etc...

    Patty M, I hope that she had been doing what she said she had done !!!! Mmmmmmmm I wonder what she may confess to later ;)...

    Kipawa, she she was mensturating, but he hasnt responded to her in this way before... She has had her periods for about 3-4 years now... No-one else in the house had their periods either...

    DebraDownSouth, I wondered later about whether or not I should have put him on a lead, but I couldnt think of any other way to allow him to get close to her. I needed to be able to pull him away IF he wanted to bite her...

    The reason he isnt neutered yet, is cos he was bought as a show dog. Unfortunately he cant be shown, as he has taken a HUGE dislike to being on the table, or being touched/handled by anyone other than us. All this has happened DESPITE the enormous amount of socialising/show handling classes we have done with him etc, etc, etc... I am allowing his breeder to decide whether she wants semen collected, and this will be done prior to our next breeding season, then he will be castrated :)...

    Quercus, why would he be funny about just Olivia approaching his crate ??? The rest of us dont have this response from him, when we approach his crate ??? No static here, but that was a really interesting point :)...

    Ok the next instalment in this saga...

    Again last night, Olivia came home from work, went to say hello to all the dogs, Saba was in his crate, and he was very guarded with her. Ears back, licking his lips, low grumbling, obviously very uncomfortable with her being there, in front of his crate. He was fine with me there, just not Olivia... She did get brought home from work, by a smoker, so maybe he could smell the smoke on her ??? She says that there were cigarettes in the house that she slept over at, but she never saw anyone smoke, nor could she smell smoke in the house at all... But again why now does he react in this way to cigarette smoke ??????????

    Later on, after she had been in the house a while, I got him out of the crate, and he was fine with her, jumped up had a good smell of her, breath included, she patted him, played with him for a few minutes, took him out for a wee etc, etc. No issues... Arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgh, this boy is doing my head in, I can tell you 😕 😕 😕 ...


  • @Kipawa:

    Originally Posted by DebraDownSouth View Post
    A dog living with 3 females, if ever was going to react to their cycles, would have.

    Hi Debra, I enjoy everyone posting on here. Everyone has good ideas/thoughts. But sometimes, though I don't mention it (it rolls off my back), your tone in your messages come across a little condescending. I know you aren't doing it on purpose, so no offence taken. But I just thought I might let you know in a friendly way.

    Fran, there are times when I might mean to be condescending, but I assure you that it won't be "a little" or usually any question. That you could take my comment above as condescending… I can only suggest you may simply want to block my posts because it is entirely unlikely I will write 100 words to say what I said in under 20 because SOMEONE might see my observation as insulting. Now if I had said it condescending, such as:
    How could you THINK it could be that? Don't you think any dog living with females would already have reacted? How silly!

    The person threw out the idea of periods, which sometimes could be it .. and btw, pregnancy hormones set some dogs off… but it hit me he had lived with them too long for that to be probably. It wasn't an insult to the OP, just a response. People contradict my ideas daily on here, doesn't make them condescending or insulting.

    THEN, I could see it. I simply tossed out a quick response addressing that logically it probably wasn't that. If you read that as condescending instead of my own view, I am sorry.

    One helpful rule for forums is that you look at any post and see if there is another TONE than the one you ascribed. If there is, take the other.

    Like your post. I COULD think you are a jerk, not at all "friendly," addressing this here and hijacking the thread instead of sending me a private message. Instead, because I see you post a lot and like you :), I took it exactly at face value... you simply are expressing your view and trying to be helpful. So please remove any tones you might ascribe to the answer. The tone in my head is simply factual, that I am not responsible for your taking that as condescending and probably won't be able to stop you seeing other posts that way. Now if I actually say something you cannot take any way than as an insult, feel free to let me know. But the above... sorry, Fran, it was simply a logical observation.

    LOL, and in fact, let me now be "condescending" to my post. (I am joking while making a point.)

    SOMEONE (but it will be me, since it just hit me where I could easily be wrong...) could have responded to my post and said:
    Yeah, but dds, you are wrong because maybe she has an infection or urinary tract infection also with a period, that might do it.

    See?


  • @saba:

    DebraDownSouth, I wondered later about whether or not I should have put him on a lead, but I couldnt think of any other way to allow him to get close to her. I needed to be able to pull him away IF he wanted to bite her…...

    i would have had him on a leash too. Safety first! I was just explaining how it may have made it worse though.

    However, how about trying this. When she comes home, and as often as possible, have her go toward his crate saying TREAT and toss him one. A lot. Til you see him HAPPY to see her.

    We do this in the park with dogs who hate men, people with umbrellas, hats, whatever. It is amazing how fast you can retrain thinking. Because right now what is getting reinforced is the aversion.

    Yummy treats. Heck cut back on food so a little hungry if possible. Did I mention yummy treats?


  • DDS that sounds like a really good idea, I hadnt thought of it at all. Try to retrain his thinking that her approaching the crate with SUPER YUMMY treats is something for him to look forward to… Hes not a very food motivated young man, but still going to give it a try... Thank you 🙂


  • @saba:

    DDS that sounds like a really good idea, I hadnt thought of it at all. Try to retrain his thinking that her approaching the crate with SUPER YUMMY treats is something for him to look forward to… Hes not a very food motivated young man, but still going to give it a try... Thank you 🙂

    I agree with Debra's suggestion with one small change. I would have her approach the crate saying nothing, and just slipping treat in to him without making a commotion. EVERY time she passes his crate. find a treat that he adores, and that is the only treat she gives him, and only SHE gives it to him. We want to make it really simple for him. He is in your crate, he sees her, great things happen. No extra variables like greeting, or anything else. She can add that in later. It doesn't matter what he is doing, she gives the treat every time she walks by for a good number of weeks.


  • Andrea, would you have her do it out of the crate too, or just work on crate behavior?


  • Thanks guys,

    On order is one BBQ'd chook !!! Olivia has read the thread, and replies, and is more than happy to do this. Thank goodness school holidays are coming soon, so she can do it a little more during the day…

    I cant help wondering if this is a crate issue, but what doesnt make sense, is why its just Olivia, and why has it just started ???

    Ahhhhhh Basenji's, only dedicated, definately slightly mentally disturbed people can be owners !!! I think this boy has worried me more than any other dogs Ive ever owned, all rolled into one, but, I LOVE him with all my heart... Just wish I could work out how his brain functions, tis all 😃

    Yeah, in the crate or outside as well ???


  • I have to agree that giving treats is the way to go. Make Olivia his favorite person. Have her give him treats in different places throughout the day. She could start giving him fewer when his behavior changes for the better. If possible, it would be good if she is the one who gives him his meals too.

    If he starts getting snarky with others they can give him treats too.

    I keep treats by the door because I didn't like the way some of my dogs acted when people came over. Now they know to sit a few feet from the door when someone comes in and guests are always welcome.


  • We don't know, and won't know why just Olivia 🙂 Is he fine with her when he is outside the crate? My understanding is that he is fine. So, yup, if the behavior you want to change is when he is in the crate…this conditioning should only be associated with the crate. Of course, it would never hurt for her to do some training/bonding with him at other times....but that alone probably won't change his behavior in the crate.

    Good luck, and let us know how it goes.

    I do want to add, that if you even think he might bite her fingers if she gives him something in the crate, make sure she knows to use a long treat and hold it at the end...or try to find some thing that she could use to hand it to him, like tongs.


  • @DebraDownSouth:

    Fran, there are times when I might mean to be condescending, but I assure you that it won't be "a little" or usually any question. That you could take my comment above as condescending… I can only suggest you may simply want to block my posts because it is entirely unlikely I will write 100 words to say what I said in under 20 because SOMEONE might see my observation as insulting. Now if I had said it condescending, such as:
    How could you THINK it could be that? Don't you think any dog living with females would already have reacted? How silly!

    The person threw out the idea of periods, which sometimes could be it .. and btw, pregnancy hormones set some dogs off… but it hit me he had lived with them too long for that to be probably. It wasn't an insult to the OP, just a response. People contradict my ideas daily on here, doesn't make them condescending or insulting.

    THEN, I could see it. I simply tossed out a quick response addressing that logically it probably wasn't that. If you read that as condescending instead of my own view, I am sorry.

    One helpful rule for forums is that you look at any post and see if there is another TONE than the one you ascribed. If there is, take the other.

    Like your post. I COULD think you are a jerk, not at all "friendly," addressing this here and hijacking the thread instead of sending me a private message. Instead, because I see you post a lot and like you :), I took it exactly at face value... you simply are expressing your view and trying to be helpful. So please remove any tones you might ascribe to the answer. The tone in my head is simply factual, that I am not responsible for your taking that as condescending and probably won't be able to stop you seeing other posts that way. Now if I actually say something you cannot take any way than as an insult, feel free to let me know. But the above... sorry, Fran, it was simply a logical observation.

    LOL, and in fact, let me now be "condescending" to my post. (I am joking while making a point.)

    SOMEONE (but it will be me, since it just hit me where I could easily be wrong...) could have responded to my post and said:
    Yeah, but dds, you are wrong because maybe she has an infection or urinary tract infection also with a period, that might do it.

    See?

    Debra, not a problem. Thank you.

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